You can choose to allow the rest of your day to be bad or you can pull your boot straps up, put a smile on your face and choose to make the rest of the day the best you can.
Never forget this. Really glad for you. You are a success story. You are handling it.
Cheers
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
I was no longer an option for him and I will proceed without him...I turned and walked away with that damn smile on my face, as he sat in his car still yelling at me...
Well done!
Originally Posted By: Serenity
My oldest sent me a text about 10 minutes later apologizing to me for his Dad being such an A-Hole...
I appreciated that however told him it wasn't his place and I was sorry him and his brother had to witness that...
You are so strong; your children will remember your dignity taking the high road here.
Originally Posted By: Serenity
Little man was in tears last night wanting to know why Daddy was being so mean to me & what he could do to "fix" Daddy so he would love us again...
I just rubbed his back til he went to sleep...
So, maybe not a great Mother's day, but certainly some great mothering.
((((Serenity))))
M:42|W:40|D:17|S:13|Bomb:10/23/09 Awoken's Current Thread
I'm sitting here pondering your interactions with your children and your H, as the divorce looms. I'm always sorry to read about the difficulties everyone here has. It's even tough to come to the board at all at times. Nonetheless, there is a lot of inspiration here! Again, thanks for being here. Sorry for the tough times, and hang in there.
M:42|W:40|D:17|S:13|Bomb:10/23/09 Awoken's Current Thread
Thank you my kind friend...It is always nice to see you on my thread.
Originally Posted By: Awoken
pondering your interactions with your children and your H
This is by far the hardest...I don't bad mouth him, I don't disrespect him and I don't judge him or his actions around the boys...I know for a fact he doesn't show me the same respect, however it is extremely important to me that my boys see me take the high road as much as possible...
When I first came here all I wanted to teach them was to fight for what you believe in regardless of how bad you got hurt...Along the path that changed to being true to yourself no matter what...My H and the troll can demonize me all they want, to whomever will listen....No matter what they say, the respect I garnered from my sons' based on my actions will never be taken from me and that is what matters the most to me...
I handled myself with dignity, with grace and with self-respect...Neither my H nor the OW will ever be able to say that...
My 14 year old sat with me on Saturday night and said the following to me - "I would rather live in a trailer on food stamps with you and my brother then with Daddy/OW in a house with a pool."
All along I thought he would choose Dad because Dad is the fun one, Mom is the one with the rules...He choose me - No matter how poor I am or how many rules I set - He choose me based on what I project to him and little man...
The material things don't matter - What matters is how you conduct yourself...
He sees first hand how much disrespect my H shows me yet I still smile and walk away...He asks me how I will ever forgive his Dad...How I would ever want him back and then states I need to divorce him because I deserve better in my life.
This is the same young man who threatened to kill me back in Jan...
I am proud he can see how I handle every interaction I have with my H...The calmer I remain, the more pissed off H becomes...Then his actions turn ugly and I can walk off with my head held high...
I didn't have to wait for the karma bus...My H is driving it in the way he portrays himself and he doesn't even know it...
If at the end of each day you can look at your children and know you did the absolute best with the lessons you are trying to teach them, then you had a wonderful day.
May All Who Seek To Take My Life Be Put To Shame And Confusion; May All Who Desire My Ruin Be Turned Back In Disgrace. ~Psalm 40:14~
