Wow what an @ss! Especially for telling the kids about D! Why was he so upset? Just because the kids weren't ready to go?
I'm sorry mind but you've been ready (and you are ready) to just let him go- at least for now. Stealing thunder? not sure if it really matters...just take care of it. I know you will.
Last edited by StupidRomeo; 05/09/1011:21 PM.
Me: 35|WAW: 38|D: 6yo | http://tinyurl.com/2dxx7m6 Feb 2006, left, came back in two weeks Aug 2006, left again Apr 2007, filed for divorce Dec 2007, reunited Mar 2010, moved out, filed again
Ok, I still think he's blustering now and won't actually serve you until he can get his crap together. So you still have the head start and will probably be able to serve him at the apartment. Don't feel bad about having your own L do all the work--you would need to know all the financial stuff no matter what.
I'm so sorry he ruined the day like that. But cheaters are self-centered jerks so it's par for the course. I hope you can get S13 to talk to someone so he can let it all out. How horrible to dump this all on S10 like it's his fault because he wasn't ready to go!
Deep breaths. Couple cocktails. Cry, scream, yell, let it out. I'm here if you need anything.
If you love somebody, set them free. http://tinyurl.com/2empx2g
I am so sad for your children that they are being emotionally abandoned by their father this way. How horrifying for them, and for you as their mother.
And I am sad for you that you are being treated this way. You deserve so much better.
Stuff like this lowers my faith in people. I`m sure if your H had seen himself acting this way on the day that he married you, he would have been horrified at his own potential for selfishness and meanness.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
Hi guys. Thank you so much. This is really, for a mom, about as bad as it gets. I'm laying in bed next to S10 who is just sobbing, stll at midnight. He just wants to know where his Daddy is.
I'm so angry I could blow someones head off!
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
that your kids went through that. Why can't some adults find a way to put kids first in these kind of sitches? 
