You are a short flight away now....let's keep it that way! We can always to a gal's trip to wine country and visit Pearl!
Sorry he is such a sh!t esp to your kids. The angriest I got throughout my own sitch was seeing how it traumatized my babies. Yeah, I really wanna kick him!
goodness gracious! now there are 30 pages to catch up? lol ya right!! me read 30 pages? lol
anyways mind, I know I get to catch up a little bit here and there in the alt, hope you are doing well... please email me if ever ther is a major change in the sitch. I really care about you, and I'm sorry I'm not on here near as much.
sending lots of love!!
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
Mind: Sorry stbxH is still being a Jackhole. Nothing like blaming mom for everything (as he "secretly" goes back to the OW). Grrrrr....
I was saying this earlier. I've never felt really confident in my ability to be a good dad. But at least there are a few choice "fathers" I could be better than. Some A-holes need to be sterilized at puberty. Sorry if that sounds harsh.
Jeff - Europe does sound amazing. I can't imagine enjoying it until I get my boys right...
BBJ - I tried to enlist H's help tonight w/S13, and he claims he reached out to him, and S13 said he hated him, and would not respond further. It makes me siCk, really sick. These boys love their Dad, a lot. God.
Kara - Hello. I am sorry. I have not caught up w/you in forever. H did call S10 tonight, and told him that none of this is his fault. Two min convo. And H claims S10 was fine. The reality is he was fighting tears from streaming when he hung up. Ick.
Ferg - I know how you feel. It sucks that you are right. Thank you for the email. It is one of the keepers.
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
((((Mindfull)))) I really and truly believe this. Your boys are going to follow your lead. Maybe not immediately, as they are in shock. But, in the long run, as you go, they will go. It's scary, but it means you are in control. Don't let that so called man have that control back!
Ya know Mindful, one thing to think about is that if you relocate your kids will have a lot more upheaval than you may want. If you want to stay anyway, I suggest it may be better to stay where you are in the same house if possible. Your thoughts about co-parenting? It can happen. It sounds like he would like that, but hang on for a while until the D is final. And change your expectations - he won't parent them like he did or in a way that you would approve. You should let him parent the way he will and let the kids take him to task for it. They need to establish their own relationship with him if they choose. If you interfere it won't be good for the kids. My opinion. Europe would be a good idea. You should take that week and go...
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
