Hi all. I figured I would move over here to have my own thread. I have been over in MLC about a year and a half ago and started out in newcomers for a short period of time.
Anyway, not gonna retype all of the craziness I have witnessed, but some of you probably have read some of my threads on MLC.
I am happily divorced now and pretty much all of my issues stem from trying to parent my kids with their dad still not fixing his problems or doing any counseling or anything to get better.
In a nut shell, my sitch was that he was either going through major MLC or mental illness or both. Got so bad at home that I finally had to take the kids and move. He had a og (I call her girl cuz she was 18!)out in the open within two weeks. She was his employee of all things. SOOOO pretty sure there was inappropriateness going on before we separated. He then decided after I was done that he didn't like this fun life he had going on and wanted me back. Too much damage had been done to myself and my kids.
He refused to do any work on himself or even go to counseling when it was court ordered because of his behavior and two incidents of violence toward me. He turned into a stalker when I wouldn't take him back (really, to the point of me having to file numerous police reports). He has also acted unstable in front of my kids several times and traumatized them to the point that my son doesn't want to even go see him, but he has to. I haven't had enough evidence of his instability to stop visitation.
ANYWAY, I try to avoid interaction with him as much as possible, but as you guys know when you share kids (even though his is only every other weekend) it is hard. Ballgames, etc.
Sooo, I decided to move over here from MLC. I don't have that much drama going on these days to post over there, and am not trying to "save" my marriage anymore. This is probably a better place for me now.
Nice to meet you guys! (The one's I don't already know : )
"Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out." Robert Collier
"One's best success often comes after their greatest disappointments." Henry Ward Beecher
Hey SoCo! thanks for the welcome on my thread and a warm welcome back to you on yours! Like others have said sorry that you find yourself here, but maybe we can all help each other navigate thru the next phase huh?!
When is it your turn to buy a round? Actually scratch that, my father raised me better than that---can I buy the first round of drinks for your thread? Whattlya have?
H: 30 W: 31 S: 2 T/M: 6/4 D Final 4-5-10
Bomb: June 09 Status: D'd and moving onward and upward?
Ha. Thanks Buffet. I may need a whole bottle of wine after my meeting at work today! lol. I may have to move grades next year due to enrollment, to the ONE grade that I really don't want! Ugggg. Pop open that cork....
"Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out." Robert Collier
"One's best success often comes after their greatest disappointments." Henry Ward Beecher
Hey Chickie!!! Sorry I didn't see your thread sooner. How are you?????
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
I'm hanging. Divorce was final last month, and although I have had my ups and downs, I am glad its finally done. I still talk to him but am getting to the point where I dont feel that is really necessary anymore.
I am glad things are good for you!!!
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
Well well, ex was a no show again last night at my S baseball game. He has seen none of the first five games. Then always comes up with some lame-o excuse or blames it on me somehow (I didn't remind him, etc. uhhhhh not my job, he has the internet.
A little worried about my S9. He has recently put on some weight and he was already a stocky build, so he doesn't need to gain weight. I think he has been using eating as one of his coping mechanisms to deal with all this. We already play sports almost every night, so it's hard to fit in more workouts. I am going to have to try to limit what he eats, but I HATE fighting with him about food.
His passion is his sports, and he is really talented, so I don't want him to gain too much weight where it hampers him.
"Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out." Robert Collier
"One's best success often comes after their greatest disappointments." Henry Ward Beecher
Hey Sweetie...you might want to take him to the doc first. It may be a coping mechanism, but it may also be a growth spurt...
As far as the x, chalk him up to a big AH. Someday he will regret doing this to his kids. Just hope it isn't too late by that time! (((Hugs)))
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
Hey Soco, just popping by to say hi since we both "moved in" the same day. I wouldn't worry to much about your son at that age. Just make sure he is eating healthy and he will work it all off. That is awesome that he is so into sports, I am looking forward to being able to do that with my son in a couple of years!
(or for the record, any other activity--scouts, band camp, science club) but baseball or football would still be great!
H: 30 W: 31 S: 2 T/M: 6/4 D Final 4-5-10
Bomb: June 09 Status: D'd and moving onward and upward?
Yes Lola he is! I don't nor does my son expect him to show up nowadays. If he does the kids pretty much both ignore him except for a polite hi type of thing. His loss. Kids see putting in time and effort for them as love. Guess who does all of that? Mom.
"Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out." Robert Collier
"One's best success often comes after their greatest disappointments." Henry Ward Beecher
