Yes I have, fb is blocked now completely. I do have new developments OM1 and his W called. He said there was nothing romantic going on, he said that he sees how she played him and his family and realized she is crazy.
Him and W are now going to file a terroristic threatning warrant against her. She really has been on a major path of self destruction. OM1 his W and now and even her boss will either sign affadavits and or testify on my behalf.
I feel very very sorry for W as I am detaching. I am watching my wife self destruct and I am beginning to wonder if she even really wanted to be a mother or a wife??
She is now resorted to acting out her teenage years again by going out partying, dating men, all the while making very stupid decisions that honestly benefit no one but the teenager within.
I am now at a point, where I will pull no punches. She sent me some threats, and ironically these same threats her bosses son said she told him of as well.
By scaring my dad to a heartattack, or trying to make me do something stupid etc...
Now that everyone in this mess is on my side, I am about 100 percent sure I will not lose this case.
WAW still hasnt filed and likely doesnt have the money, we go back on July 15th.
I guess my questions now are of damage control and tough love.
Do I file a mental inquest on her for the homicidal threats? Do i take it up with criminal court for breaking her Assault case no contact order?
The mental inquest could be a shot to get her some real help in a hospital?
The criminal no contact will land her in jail?
I really see no choice, as it will solidify my case for my DD1, but the mental inquest could get her some help.
I am pretty sure I need to let this go for good, but I do wish for her to be in her mothers life as long as MOM can get stable and get some real help.
Thoughts?
M 36 W 29 Together 2 1/2 years married 14 months Daughter 15 months Bomb 4/22/10 Separated since 4/25/10 OM 6/10/10 Hopeful, but moving on
Well quick update - Court in 7 days. WAW is still with OM - but I now have OW whom I am dating and others wanting to date. I realize its not the best thing, but I am having fun and my mind is totally off waw when I am with my new girlfriend.
I admit i dont feel attached, and well slow is the big big keyword, but it is nice to have some one there to go out and GAL with.
I am hoping court goes well on the 15th and it looks as if DD1 will be with my sister fulltime then. We will just need to work out visitation and see if she is going to file.
If she does, Ill be fine. I have my oldself back, and well there are alot of fish in the sea. Im not going to keep myself down, because its all about happiness within.
If she does see the new me, and my changes well, I guess Ill have to make a hard decision. But at this point Ill be cool either way, cause I am having fun and enjoying life.
Thanks to the good words of ROBX which provided some emotional support. Timeheals I appreciate all your comments as well, as you seem to be a very wise DB'er.
I will update further after the case.
M 36 W 29 Together 2 1/2 years married 14 months Daughter 15 months Bomb 4/22/10 Separated since 4/25/10 OM 6/10/10 Hopeful, but moving on
IMO having a "girlfriend" is something more than just having fun, meeting new ladies and casually dating.
Is your GF aware of your legal case, the custody issue and the fact you are still married? I hope so. Have you been upfront with her that you are still emotionally attached to your W?
I find it odd you call your GF "OW". Be upfront with her about where you are at or else you might really hurt her. We all have to start somewhere, I understand that. Does your GF know you are still holding out hope to reconcile with your W?
I dated some the many times that me and my wife broke up but i tried to tell them upfront. It doesnt matter they still started liking me and when i left them to go back to my wife then it caused them heartbreak. My M is really over this time and there is no going back so I am dating again. Once again, i tell them that there some attachment to my ex but she is my ex.
Well the day finally arrives tomorrow, haven't seen my WAW in close to 2 months, I have a gut feeling she may bring OM to the hearing, but I will completely ignore this if it happens.
I have detached pretty good, and I am dating a nice girl who is kind of going through the same thing though she was not married. It's been good to have a friend, companion around and definitely has taken my mind off things.
Tomorrow WAW will see a diffrent me physically as my weight loss goal has been reached, also My sister will be named full foster mom moving forward.
WAW still has not filed D and honestly by now she should have been able to do so?? I am just wondering if it is a money issue or what? I honestly do not know.
My Therapist now is full steam ahead on saying I need to get her out of my life, which in a way I dont appreciate, I mean I know I have to detach but he certainly is not pro-marriage.
It would take so much work for us to be a couple again, so I will continue to act as If and hope she changes into what a good mom should be for our child.
I am still waiting on her to file D 1st as she is the one that wanted it? Is this good logic?? I mean if she wants it she can pay for it right?
Also, the job is going ok, and well I have been GAL'ing and just enjoying life. I really am going to be ok thanks to DB, prayer, and GAL.
M 36 W 29 Together 2 1/2 years married 14 months Daughter 15 months Bomb 4/22/10 Separated since 4/25/10 OM 6/10/10 Hopeful, but moving on
Well court is over, and now I need to file a motion for one last date. WAW came right up to me and advised she cannot afford the D. She said why dont we go down and file right now a simple D, since your sister now has custody of DD1.
I told her I will need to talk to my L 1st, and she started to get nasty saying she would seek equity in the home. lol What a farce considering the amount of time we were married.
WAW also badgered my sister in front of CPS worker, and was also acting very mean to us. She was telling my sister that her OM has a gun and she has access to it when my sister mentioned this to her. Very strange indeed, she did ask about her stuff and I advised I would gather it all up and put in the garage for her.
When we finally went into court, the judge ruled for my sister to have custody, and I also presented evidence of her breaking no contact.
The judge seemed puzzled by this and stated that No Contact was not in affect and hasnt been since the 2nd hearing. She stated that unless she writes it in the order after every hearing that the time limitation will run out since this is family court.
WAW's atty asked that it be kept, and the Judge said if I felt threatened or felt like she wanted to " Lure me into a compelling situation " then I should contact the criminal court and let them know she broke no - contact there.
It appears no contact in a family court is nothing more then a joke. Well, i dunno I guess I just disagree with the judge on this one.
WAW definitely noticed my weight loss, and i caught her staring at me a lot - because i look so much different now. I guess my sitch is still hanging out there, and well it maybe time for me to file for D and get this over with.
In the back of my mind tho, i still wonder if it could be turned around?
M 36 W 29 Together 2 1/2 years married 14 months Daughter 15 months Bomb 4/22/10 Separated since 4/25/10 OM 6/10/10 Hopeful, but moving on
