Just an update...I went back north two wks ago. I so needed it. Besides seeing my kids and Grandkids...I seen my XH and it was wonderful. I wasnt nervous at all, as I went to see him as an old friend with no expectations. However he was very nervous. My d told me he wouldnt talk and must have went in and out of his room and changed his cloths at least a dozen times. When I got there he came over and gave me a kiss and a hug. I thanked him for all he has done for our d. Well he took us out to eat that night, (D, GD and me). It felt like old times. He was joking and laughing. He asked me to stay the night which I did. He said for me to sleep in his room, but I decided to sleep on the couch. It was fine. We spent a few days together that week. We even went out a night together ..just me and him. Xh told me he was sorry for what happened. That he has really never stopped loving me and that he still loves me right now. I told him thank you and that I loved him too, that I always will. He said with everything that was going on with the kids (my Oldest D) at that time, he couldnt handle it and had to leave. He said he never left because of the OW, that the R with her started after he left. That after he left me, she pushed herself onto him all the time. He said that he just talked to her about us, (she was a friend of a friend). He stated to me he never knew about the card that the OW left in the car and that she did it on purpose as she was crazy. He said after three mos going with her he had to have her removed from his apt. He didn't ask her to move in as everyone said he did. She just moved herself in, sort of. OK yeah! I sort of believed him. He was the old H, that I loved so many yrs ago at this time...Honest, talking etc....I did not ask any of these things..he came out and said it to me. Well anyway, he said he had to have a restraining order placed against her to stay away from him. He had no idea that she use to call me on my cellphone, or that she had my number. We did talk alot about so many things. He said he would love to get out of NY and move to where I am. I said to him its a much better life there. In one aspect it was sad, he went from having the world..boats, motorcycles, cars to having one car and a different bike. No more Harley, no more boat, no more race car, no classic pickup!! He had to sell everything. He said he just finish paying off the loan for our Div. lol! He has called me a number of times and is helping my d tremously right now. She is going thru a very rough spot. So my trip went well. We became friends again....thats all I want now and for a very long time. I told him that, he told my d that he wants to be a fam again. There has to be alot of growing on his part...simply! LOL...Almost forgot...the night we went out when we got back to his house. He was so tired he passed out on the couch. So I went into his rm to sleep, and what happens when I woke up in the am...he was laying next to me on top of the blankets.... Nothing happened...but I sure wish it did now. But glad it didnt!
Well thats the update////and I have to say one thing..if it wasnt for this Dbing..I wouldn't be this strong! I am glad I found this site many many yrs ago and glad that I apply this to my daily live now...
Anything good in life is worth waiting for! Take care of you!
H-43 W-52 M-6/21/90 LU-NIL-7/03 M/OUT- 7/03 Found out @ OW-7/03 (was involved before the move out) D- 6/23/05 (married 15 yrs- together 17 yrs)
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
