Change your phone number, facebook, and email so you dont' have to read that junk anymore.. how you can you be no contact with someone an LEAVE them with your contact info?
Update, WAW has finally sunk her ship. WAW's boss informed my sister today, that she has washed her hands of WAW.
WAW was kicked out, fired from her job for making threats to Bosses son and daughter in law, and Boss said she will no longer be the court monitor.
This is good news, but also sad. Yes Allen, im going dark, but part of me feels bad for her. My sister said she has CONCERNS over who the new court monitor would be and would prefer visits take place at the CPS building.
With this new evidence i am talking with Lawyer and going to make my push for either my custody or custody to my sister on the next court date.
Your right I was soft, but no more. I am going to play hardball for DD1 - and get that under wraps, stay in darkness use my sister for negotiations, and wait a good few months.
I do feel bad for her, but well she could have made better decisions. Thanks so much for your input.
M 36 W 29 Together 2 1/2 years married 14 months Daughter 15 months Bomb 4/22/10 Separated since 4/25/10 OM 6/10/10 Hopeful, but moving on
TH, i know. It is likely for the best, she needs to hit rock bottom. I believe she is with OM and who knows what is in store. I recieved one more threatning email before I finally blocked the address - it was childish and nasty in nature. It didnt even phase me.
I am beginning to think i just have to suffer a bit more, to get to some point of detachment. I guess alot of my friends are married now, and well i only have 1 good friend who is single.
I need to join some groups, get back to my hobbies, work on house now. I am still wondering though, how this is affecting her. Because I do believe her visitation is going to revoked for a period of time.
I am pretty sure my sister will get DD1 come July 15, at which point ill be forced to see WAW in court.
I know everyone is giving good advice, but damn it is hard to detach.
Ill keep at it and hope for the best. I know I cannot help WAW now and she will have to find her own way out of this mess herself.
I see DD1 on thursday and cannot wait, i know i will be ready to be custodial parent for her and this will keep me very busy as she has just now learned to walk.
I think if WAW ever did come back, itd prob be for the reason that myself and DD1 will be together. I will stand strong for her and honestly, the only person Id trust around DD1 is myself. So, if DD1 means that much to her and she is willing to get help she can come back.
If not well then I finally move on and dedicate myself to DD1.
M 36 W 29 Together 2 1/2 years married 14 months Daughter 15 months Bomb 4/22/10 Separated since 4/25/10 OM 6/10/10 Hopeful, but moving on
Look, I want to tell you the story of a friend of mine (but I have to keep it short because the dogs haven't had their morning walk yet):
I had this friend who was getting married 15 years ago. I hadn't been home in a few years but came home for Xmas and made a point to visit him since he was getting married.
He seemed happy. His future wife made a pass at me. The only thing I said to him about this was "Are you sure you want to get married" (I was a coward back then).
Flash forward: they have a daughter, she runs off with another man, she loses custody of her daughter.
Flash forward 5 years: She has moved to another state, married a wealthy guy, but she flies out once in a while to visit her daughter. One one trip she hooks up with old friends in the area, gets some marijuana, convinced my friend to smoke it with her while visiting the daughter and after putting daughter to bed.
Flash forward 15 days: She hires an attorney who alleges drug use and demands a hair test. She fights for and gets custody of their daughter.
Six months later, she abandons the new husband and the daughter and runs off with another man.
Lather, rinse, repeat.
Now my old friend's mom has custody of his daughter.
You are a role model for your kids. Do you want them to be screwed up people when they are adults? DO NOT LET THIS KIND OF CRAP HAPPEN TO YOUR CHILDREN!
Last edited by TimeHeals; 06/30/1012:34 PM.
M-47,W-40,No kids D-filed 5/27/2010 Piecing - 10/21/2010 -=Soon to be banned=-
I get that loud and clear timeheals. You'd prob make a good parent if you had a kid, that is for sure.
Yes, i do not want my kids being screwed up, with someone who cannot make up their mind or a lifelong commitment.
Well, CPS worker called today, and I told her everything. She is wanting to validate what I told her, and we are on par to get DD1 with my sister very soon.
For DD1 things are going to be just fine, as my sister and her husband are very good people and love their baby niece with all their heart.
As for WAW, she can stew, hem, haw whatever and I dont care anymore. I am turning a corner, and feeling good. I think I just need to re-connect with some more friends, and find some things to do during the week.
Work has been busy here as of late, and that is good thing because it is forcing my mind off of this WAW stuff.
Ill update again soon.
M 36 W 29 Together 2 1/2 years married 14 months Daughter 15 months Bomb 4/22/10 Separated since 4/25/10 OM 6/10/10 Hopeful, but moving on
There may come a time when your WAW regrets all that she had done.
You just can't afford to make that your focus now. You also can't make meeting somebody to take her place your focus.
Your focus has to be protecting your daughter and yourself, and you are going to need some time to heal, and the best way to do that is not to feed the drama anymore. Let lawyers do the talking if there has to be any talking right now.
There is an over-the-top horrible dynamic playing out between you and your WAW right now, so do not feed that beast anymore.
Try to think of how you can be a better man and better father, and let that help drive your plans.
Last edited by TimeHeals; 07/01/1012:00 AM.
M-47,W-40,No kids D-filed 5/27/2010 Piecing - 10/21/2010 -=Soon to be banned=-
Your right, cannot feed the beast anymore whatsoever. I do feel way better past couple of days, now that more weight is off, fresh haircut and lots of stares from the opp sex. lol
Not dating though, until my mess is closer to cleaned up. I am going to kick up the GAL a notch or 2 as well. Hit the tanning bed, more new clothes, and a new guitar.
I am starting to remember the single life and how fun it was. Also, having DD1 around will be tough, but I am committed as my Sister will give me some breaks with her when I get her full time.
No real WAW thoughts today, just good vibes about the future.
TH, have you given up on your sitch? I know your ex is still emailing, just curious?
M 36 W 29 Together 2 1/2 years married 14 months Daughter 15 months Bomb 4/22/10 Separated since 4/25/10 OM 6/10/10 Hopeful, but moving on
