Well I filed for divorce last Thursday. She should get served with papers tomorrow or friday. I tried all I could do. Everyone including myself will be able to tell the kids that "daddy did his best and tried hard". Im so sad for the kids, Im kinda sad for our 10 year marriage but in these last four months of hearing I dont love you and I want a divorce just beat me in the ground. I cant take it anymore. When I walked in the office I stopped and call her twice and asked if she wanted me to do it and she didnrt say yes or no, just brought up the past, cussed me and hung up twice. 2 days later she said she loved me and wasnt ready to divorce. And even though she threaten she wasnt sure. Of course for my kids sake I asked if she wanted to come home she could and then she started the " I cant get back in that situation again" and trashed our whole marriage. She found out a few girls called the house and flipped out. Trashed me for "talking" while she had a affair...lol We have everything worked out on whats what. I have learned so much through this. I wanted to wish everyone luck in their situation and will check in from time to time. Thanks to the ones who gave good advice. Every situation is different. Looking back when she left I never had a chance. There is something better out there for me, someone who will put family 1st and love and respect me. IM JUST GOING TO CONTINUE TO BE THE BEST DAD IN THE WORLD AND I WILL BE HAPPY. One person cant save a marriage and again I never had a chance. Good luck. Im send prayers out for the ones who need them.
People said once I filed she would act like that wasnt what she wanted but do nothing to work on it and that was true. She is trying to be the victum and assume is ashamed by her actions. But she is trying to excuse them by blaming me. And thats what happen.
Looking back when she left I never had a chance. There is something better out there for me, someone who will put family 1st and love and respect me. IM JUST GOING TO CONTINUE TO BE THE BEST DAD IN THE WORLD AND I WILL BE HAPPY. One person cant save a marriage and again I never had a chance
aw Lee - I'm so sorry but I hear you! I feel like I never had a chance either. My former husband was "gone" and I knew it. You ARE going to have something better because you deserve it. Hang in there and keep being a great dad.
Luv
M44 H41 M20 T23 3 older teens Bomb Nov 09 "i'm not happy" EA Nov 09 w/coworker Another PA in Mar 10 I Filed Apr 10 D final Dec 10
I wish you the best of luck. Focus on your kids. A strong, loving father is soooo important. Focus on what makes Lee happy. Give yourself a vacation from thinking about her and the divorce. Think about what you want out of life, as if she had died today. Then go for those dreams and goals.
We're only given so much time in this life, use each moment as a precious gift from our maker.
