Thought Id start a new thread, more of a pop in a say hello and update thread for anyone who wants to join in!
Update
Been a bit poorly with sinusitus but getting better slowly! Been ill for about ten days now and I think H is feeling the lack of me topping up his love tanks as well as other things playing on his mind, but I cant fix them.. Just looking forward to being totally well again so I can get out and GAL!
(())) To all that need them
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W 47 H 47 M 24 T 30
Once lost but now found and happily married again!
Hey Lost Rabbit, Just wanted to say hi and hope things are well with ya & your feeling better. I'm doing the best I can right now with everything that is going on, & yesterday was our 6th year anniversary. I know it's not long (but it still sucked) although I got through it.
I'm not giving up on my M weather W still is involved with OM or just has those in love feelings still. I was hoping by our anniversary something would have changed, but I guess not!!
I don’t deserve this, and as much as it hurts to move on maybe I should. I think I'm finally gonna try & listen to Sandi's advice and just let her be. We’ll talk to ya later Hope.
Thanks H147 Hang in there other people have turned things around even with a OM/OW in the picture, Sandi is right you do really have to let go, I went NC for six weeks with my H and as horrid as it sounds it took him that long to even remotely miss me!
Just remember that a needy, missing you, pursing OH is about as attractive as a soggy lettace leaf, one that is out and about, enjoying life looking good, looks more like it needs to be put in a salad and enjoyed lol!
The bonus is if W doesnt get the message some other lovely lady will do and as much as it hurts to move on well some times its just the best thing
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W 47 H 47 M 24 T 30
Once lost but now found and happily married again!
Thanks for your encouragement, just been super busy with school, work and I took my S on vacation. We went to the Outer Banks in NC for 3 days; seas were rough as Hurricane was heading up the coast.
We had fun it’s just been hard for S. W took S for 2 days on a mini vacation week before, & said he wished daddy was here.
It’s tough case we want him to have a great time and we both planed to do these vacations together, as hard as it was for him I think it was both hard for us. You can just tell what he is feeling based off what he says.
As for the NC it would be great it’s just hard with our S any tips would be great and impending legal stuff!!
Letting go has been tough, but I need to do it. Yes I’m sure there is another lady out there. Even my IC said I should think of going on dates(nothing serious of course) or just to meet another lady(a companion) to get my mind off W.
Although W and I agreed on No Dating or Sex during this process who knows what W is doing while S is gone, & maybe it could be nothing.
For me I don’t think it would be right, but it’s nice to chat with the ladies out at the bars and it stops me from thinking of W and that I’m still got it & attractive. As always talk later Thanks Hope
Hello LR, Just popped in here to thank you for your posting of others' threads. You have valuable advice to share. Thanks for giving your time. It is appreciated.
No thanks needed Cas I'd like to pop in more but the computer front is a bit dire atm, either have to use upstairs study one which means not being in lounge and I dont want to use OH's one for DB stuff for obvious reasons.
Hope its not easy deciding to move on or not, I never felt brave enough to start dating and ironically my H said he was glad I hadnt, thats not to say I wouldnt off eventually..
But I did go out for a few nights with BFF and enjoyed myself cos at the end of the day I was single, and I can always have a bit of a girly flirt with the men at work cheers their day up too lol! Just go out and be yourself, you will know if and when the time is right to move on or not!
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W 47 H 47 M 24 T 30
Once lost but now found and happily married again!
Hey Lost Rabbit, Hope all is well with you. I don't know where I'm at right now somedays it seems like I should just move on & others I never what to give up. As far as the dating not sure yet talking at the bars is fun but going back to an empty place sucks & really makes me miss W..
Here is a little story I was working the other day let's just say it a big Swedish store & a very attractive woman in her 30 was asking my advice on some of her furniture & what would go with her new place. Bythe 3rd time I helped her; I said I haven't done this in 9 yrs. but you are really pretty. I said my w & I are going through some hard times. She said her & husband were going through the S&D process too.
Then she I not looking for anything or dating right now. I told her believe me I know it's like a roller coaster. Well I wished her luck & have a good day. She said the same & that she hadn't herd that in a while. I said well it's true. That was it hope I made her day!
You were one of my biggest supporters in the beginning of all of this! Hard to believe it has been almost a year! You talked me thru a couple of different situations!!!
I am hoping that all is well with you and your H!!! Please keep updating!
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