Probably because both of you must go through the process. A better question, and I think this is what you are getting at, is where is the "I"?
Exactly, you would like to know what he is thinking, but there is no talk of "I" in his communications.
This is exactly what I mean. But why there is no "I"?
Originally Posted By: TimeHeals
Mind reading. Not that it will probably do any good, but you could tell him that you are agreeing only because you don't want to be married to somebody who doesn't want to be married to you. Why should only one of you fight for this marriage?
I like that.
Originally Posted By: TimeHeals
I'm kind of interested in how you know this about his buddy if communication is as sparse as what you have typed here.
I know that straight from the source, I'm friends on FB with the said buddy. He put the whole thing there. H didn't comment, but buddy mentioned talking to H while divulging about the breakup.
Accept that there is only one thing you can change in life and that is you
Ris, there is no "I" because he is sold on wanting a D and is prob referencing that you have to go through the D together. It doesn't matter what he says, the fact is he wants a D.
You could say waht TH recommended. Because right now all you told him was "ok."
Your H could very well have a L so, again, I would advise you to talk to someone (an atty/L) for further information. Protect yourself.
What if I said that H might be having second thoughts? He just posted lyrics of a song on FB (that's a habit of his, to use fitting lyrics) that talks about compromising and working out things in a relationship. It wouldn't be the first time when he does this so I am tempted to go out on a limb and read his mind.
Accept that there is only one thing you can change in life and that is you
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I remember I posted lyrics on FB. "Heart of the Matter" I was definitely feeling those lyrics that day. Not to raise your hope though.
Don't read into it.
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Could he be wanting someone else's eyes to see that?
he hasn't blocked you from his FB account yet?
Mind reading get the mind roamimg and in your state of mind it is not a good thing to do.
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No, he hasn't blocked me. He put this up and deleted the status he had put when he deleted all my pictures (about "it's over").
Of course it is possible that it was for someone else's eyes but I don't think so. I would venture a thought that he's been acting on emotion all along. But that's an even heavier mind reading.
Accept that there is only one thing you can change in life and that is you
Okay, I talked to someone who knocked some sense into me. I hold on to the memories of good times and hope that the future will be good too, but the present isn't. Status quo is not what I want.
There will have to be changes, with him or without him.
Accept that there is only one thing you can change in life and that is you
