Times up

[Cie la vie]

Well I've been informed that my "Running out of time" thread is to long and I need to start a new one. I darn well better listen.

I have had an eventful last 4 weeks. In that time my house was sold, I moved to my new residence a small apartment and two weeks ago was broadsided by a twenty something punk who was driving wrecklessly and me and my young twins ended up in the emergency room as a precautionary measure. We are all okay thankfully.

My vehicle (honda odyssey) was totalled and I'm doing the insurance dance and all the BS that goes with it.

The accident apparently was a temporary wake up call for the STBX and if she hadn't dropped the ball on her mission to get out of the marriage she would have been the "X" months ago but here we are still technically married.

Anyway, I informed her of the accident shortly after I extracted my children from the vehicle.

Only one door could be opened.

This was not your garden variety fender bender. This kid lost control of his car speeding 65+ down a windy road.

He introduced himself to me as I came around the same turn and he was coming at me sideways. I had a split second to react and avoided a potentially disasterous head on.

The "X" came to the Hospital and on the way saw the condition of my vehicle and as she put it broke down. When she arrived at the hospital she broke down again.

Over the next several days she was like her old self. She was calling me, emailing me and generally being pleasant.

Several weeks earlier she pulled her usual stunt of making sure I new she was going out of town for Thanksgiving to be with OM2. I don't care nor need to know her plans but she likes to turn the knife.

Well she informed me over the weekend that she decided she isn't going to leave town over Thanksgiving and if I didn't have plans we should get together as a family and cook up a turkey etc. Per our Marriage settlement agreement I have the kids for Thanksgiving in even years and she has them in odd. I told I have to get back to her on that.

Well, before I gave her an answer on Thanksgiving I sent her an email explaining that there were still a couple loose ends that need to be handle in order to get the divorced finalized. I guess she must have taken this email as an indication that I am content to move on.

Her response was that she called her attorney once again and was finally able to get on her schedule. She also informed that she is now going to be out of town for Thanksgiving after all.

The kook is either Fuking with me or simply a whack job or both.

It is difficult for me to ascertain whether or not she was having second thoughts about me and the family or she was just feeling bad for all the crap I've had to deal with over the last several months. I am learning that I must avoid any speculation when it comes to a hormonally challenged women.

[dwinter82]

Hey man, glad to hear you and the kids are ok...scary stuff.

If you are like me, the holidays should be fun this year...

How is everythng else going?

[Cie la vie]

DW,

Nice to hear from you.

How are you man?

I had the kids for Thanksgiving went up the coast to my mothers and had a good time. The kids were just great on both the long drive north and the even longer drive south.

Unfortunately neither my sister or brothers were present as they stayed in their towns. So the kids didn't have their usual bevy of cousins to play with. They still had a lot of fun.

The kids are with their mother for Christmas so I'll need to make other plans for that holiday. I'm leaning toward a ski trip or a climbing trip somewhere.

How you doing with you situation?

Happy Holidays!

[dwinter82]

CLV-, glad to hear you had a nice thanksgiving. I did not have the kids, which was tough, but I have them for Christmas so that will be good.

I still have times when I struggle, especially when I think about the family but overall doing pretty good. The ex did inform me she is pregnant, which is no big suprise, but it is still weird and difficult to grasp.

Enjoy your holidays!!

[Cie la vie]

DW,

I struggle with crap as well I guess we shouldn't expect anything else for awhile. Comes with the territory.

Man your X is moving at the speed of light, seems bizarre. I guess the upside is all this kind of BS is over with very quickly and there isn't much else to be surprised with down the road. I know that probably doesn't make things easier now but in time.

My X spent her Thanksgiving in your town with OM2. Not sure how that works given the distance from here to their but I have to learn to not care. Not the easiest task.

We are in the reverse order on the holidays. This Christmas will be extra strange for me as I won't have the kids and again my sister and brothers will all be away so it will be a small get together up north.

I decided against going on a trip solo, just seemed weird I haven't missed a X-Mas with one family or the other in my lifetime.

How's the getting a life thing working out for you? I've been utterly pathetic with my efforts.

Have a great Christmas and New Year as well!

Your Rams might sneak into the playoffs as well. I'll be routing for em.

[dwinter82]

The GAL think is going ok. I have been seeing someone for a few months, nothing serious, but it is nice to have someone to hang out with. This "recovery" process we are going through is very slow but things will get better.

You have a nice Christmas as well!!!

[Cie la vie]

Good for you on the GALing. I plan on getting going after the holidays. I've been stuck in the mud for way to long now.

I agree the recovery will be slow and I'm okay with that.

My X has decided she is going to go ahead and introduce OM2 to my children after Xmas. She took advantage of the fact that I will be out of town through the New Year and is having him in town the 29th thru the 3rd at her place while she has the kids.

Doesn't make me happy but nothing I can do about it. She'll have the dog as well. Maybe this clown will see what he has gotten himself into and run for the hills. One can only hope.

I made the decision back in November to do everything possible to avoid contact with her after she pulled the bait swithch on me regarding getting together for Thanksgiving and than changing her mind going to see OM2 in St. Louis.

It isn't healthy for me to spend time around her as she clearly has no conscience.

Of course I will do what is best for the kids on all matters but everything will be strictly the business of raising the kids when it comes to dealing with her.

I look back over the last 15 months and the crap she put me through primarily in the last quarter of 2009 and I realize that the damage is unrepairable even if she had an epiphany.

The big losers in this are the kids, the day is approaching fast when they will recognize that their family life is not the same as the majority of their friends.

I don't look forward to the questions that will arise from this awareness.

[MHL]

Hey CLV,

Has been a long time, just checking in to see how you are doing.

Cheers