just to say I am now watching from the sidelines two very good friends of mine going through the experience of mlc, both their husbands have walked out, both aged 42, both in the mr angry stage and it is all just like dejavu, everything I hear, everything I see just reminds me of my own sitch all those darn years ago, its just as if I know what they are going to tell me next xx
Hi Mandy, I'm so sorry to hear about your friends. You have learned to much over the years, at least you can support them and understand what they are going through.
I hope you and your son are well.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Hi snodderly, yes indeed I am there to support my friends, but have told all four of them I am a neutral friend and will remain friends with them all. I dont voice my opinion to any of them, neither do I take sides during the arguments, but I find it all very interesting to watch and makes me realise it is more an act of life than just poor me going through this. myself and son are absolutely tremendous thankyou for asking he is a sure credit to myself but most importantly to himself, he is a superstar xx
Because stressors in the 40s are so common, it seems that it would be helpful for couples getting married (from people who are marrying them--priests, ministers, etc.) to learn about things that become challenging over time. Perhaps if MLC and midlife were discussed more, more marriages would last.
M: 16 years Bomb 4/07 OW 20s long gone Divorced 11/09 I remarried New Guy Cooperative r w/X regarding D
