I too feel like I am in a good place. A place more of observation than reaction. It took 4 years to get here though. So much damage has been done. Just when you think that was the last straw, something worse comes along. I often stop myself and wonder how the heck I did it all, but God has been a strength for me. I give him all the credit.
My ex keeps spinning. More and more trips. Number 35 in a week. He will no longer control my life or dominate my emotions. Life is too short to sit and mourn forever. I keep thinking there has to be a reason for all we have been through. Maybe what happened will be the path we were suppose to be on. You have been a treasure and a inspiration to me. God Bless
Trusting
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
trusting funny thing I was going to stop by your thread to say hello 4 years went by like a flash im not sure any of us thought it would go quite the way it did maybe in the next year or so, some of us might see some kind of shift in the mlcer that would sort of validate the whole process peace
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow
Hi old DB supporters/friends. Good to see you all here. First of all I want to thank each and every one of you for your part in supporting me during the hardest part of my life. Each of you were a blessing and I really don't know how I would have gotten through those days without you there. As each of you have said "it has been a long haul". 3 years in August for me as well. WOW is a good word for it all. So many horendous times, and yet I'm still here standing as tall as I can. I made it! Ex is still spinning and my guess he will continue for the rest of his life. It's sad and through it all I still feel compasion for what he's going through. Even though I believe it could have been sooo different IF he could have done things different. Unlike the rest of you I DO regret alot of how I handled things. But as close as H and I were, I don't know how I could have handle things differently. The Bomb did litterly floor me. As well as my D (now 19). She continues to have issues from all of it. I pray that in time she will be able to put it all aside and move on. God bless each and every one of you. Life does go on.... TOH
was theotherhalf M43 H43 M22 T25 MLC/OW bomb 4/07 Hmoved out 8/07 D6/09 Still trying to accept and move on...
it has been hell..lets face it. but can you even remember the hurt 3 - 4 years ago? i can not. i can not believe the tears, the pain, the true heart ache. so much - and look at us.. here still supporting each other !
every one of you has helped me along. i hope i have done the same for you.
wonder what our lives will be like in a year... hmm should be interesting. and them? my xh will still be spinning --
M-20 years/BOMB 12/24/06 Moved out 3/12/07 D final 7/30/2008 finding myself again
I trully believe in the next 2 years we will see major major changes in our Ml'ers, some good some even worse..
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
They will have lost all this time being emotionally stagnant while we have grown, grieved and gained a life.....
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
it will be an interesting thing to watch and hopefully we can all update the mlcer at the 5 year mark I think if we could see a shift, it would bring the whole mlc to reality as for now it is still somewaht baffling peace
happy Thanksgiving to all
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow
good reading peeps, but I for one can honestly say that at the 5 and half year stage for me there has been no change in the ex, still partying, still with the ow he married, still doesnt speak to son or his old aunt, I think this is how he will continue, I dont expect him to come to his senses at all he is too far gone, shame but for me and son life moves on and is good good good xx
Hope you and your kids had a wonderful Thanksgiving.
I think it is different for all MLCers. The 5 year mark may be a good average but some get through sooner and some longer and some may never make it through. I hope for your children's sake that there is some shift in your H very soon. It has to be hard for them. Keep being the strong, wonderful mother that your children need...and keep appreciating all of your blessings and try not to dwell on where your XH is in all of this...he will come around when he is ready...hopefully that will be sooner than later.
Good to see you all here. First of all I want to thank each and every one of you for your part in supporting me during the hardest part of my life. Each of you were a blessing and I really don't know how I would have gotten through those days without you there.