This recent exchange shows me W is reflecting but still sees herself as a victim of circumstance, other people's judgment, and just plain some bad people in her life.
She wishes she didn't do the things she did but is still not ready to atone for it.
Easier to run away and say she isn't worthy of our M.
I think she expects me, wants me, to give her the easy out and divorce her.
She ain't gettin off that easy.
It costs me nothing to stand here right now.
It is her time to do the heavy lifting and the work.
She will or she won't but she isn't getting the hall pass from me.
Not right now.
My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am
Hey man, you've got my support either way you go. I was encouraged upon first reading of contact, but as you've noted, she may be fishing for the easy out.
On the bright side, at least there is some acknowledgement that her actions are not normal. Whether she owns them is another story. I'm sure there are many out there, me included, who'd wish to hear an ounce of remorse from their spouses; recognizing what they've done could actually be hurtful.
Crush--(I love Finding Nemo, btw)-- I thought I'd love to hear those words, too. And I did, the first two or three times I heard them. They were always followed by a brief period of decent behavior, then right back to the same old same old.
Now I just take them for what they are worth. Actions do speak louder than words and in this case my H hasn't made a lot of movement. Not that it would matter to me anymore, but I'd love to see him healthy for his kids.
Actions, True. Wait for real actions.
formerly known as "shelbel" Me 40, stbxh 40 DSs 9, 7 & 3 M9, T10 Stbxh is a diagnosed bipolar & an addict. The end.
