DH and I hosted my parents. If you remember, I was going through some family issues, but things are a lot better with that now. I get over things, and the passage of time helps.
DH and I still aren't having much sex. The last time was a month ago, and he really surprised me - it was on a Monday night, which almost NEVER happens. I was caught off guard - and the funny thing is, I really wasn't in the mood. Before our sex life tanked (2007), I might have asked for a raincheck - and that thought actually occurred to me. But I only considered that for about a nanosecond - I never turn down sex anymore, even when I'm not in the mood, bcs who knows how long it will be before I get another chance? He's doling it out, so I'd better take it when he feels like giving it.
In other news: DH found out yesterday that his father has prostate cancer. The doctor had given his father the results that day. The day before Thanksgiving! I was kind of mad at the doctor for the timing. Could he not have waited until the day AFTER T'giving? Christ on a cracker! "Oh, BTW, you have prostate cancer. Have a nice Thanksgiving!" DH says that it's at an early stage, which is good. But it's still scary - especially after DH himself had a prostate scare last spring. I really got freaked out for a little while last night. What if DH himself someday gets it, too? Is prostate cancer ever hereditary?
And DH will be anxious about his father, and maybe anxious about his own health all over again, too. And I want to be supportive, and be there for him. But he's one of those people who's hard to give to, and hard to do things for - he doesn't seem to need or want anything. How do you be supportive to someone who doesn't want to talk?
He (DH) actually said he did not want to talk about it at all until after T'giving. So, that was an elephant in the room last night and today. Sometimes there are so many elephants in the room, I feel like I'm at the zoo.
Anyway, I know that with this deal w/ his dad going on, this is NOT a good time to bug him about sex. Not that we've had any really good times for that in a while. 2010 has been a sucky year; I'll be glad to say goodbye to it in a few weeks. Maybe 2011 will be better.
Will stop rambling - I'm just checking in w/ an update, but it's late, I'm tired, and I'm probably not making much sense. Time for bed!
