Happy New Year to all. Just came back for some understanding.
Those who know me, know how crazzzzy its been w my H. After 5 years of going through the divorce process..yes 5 years (all on my old threads) we are officially divorced as of last month. A few things have gone on this year..lets see
In January 2010 ..H started coming around more. I had my life going on and he was still w OW. H came over one day. Was completely normal, even nice to my sis. He played games with us..then blurted out OW moved out. We are broken up..you should be happy. I didnt say much.First time in a long time, i saw old H.
Well, a week later who do I run into OW. She cried..yes CRIED to me that H broke up w her. My friend was w me and shocked this OW was crying to me..at this point H and I were still married. I wasnt mean..it isnt in my nature. She said H told her they needed to break up beforethey hated each other. That he told her to get away from her before he killd her. She said that his mom said they were meant to be...which she told me when they started their affair it was just a fling. Nothing more.
She swore she could never be w H because he was w me in the beginnnig also. But..She must have gone back to H because they did get back together ..again. H might not have liked that I told her while they were together so were we , in the begiining. I didn't telll her H and i slept together more recent. i didnt feel it was my duty. I couldn't believe she cried to me. But my encounter w her , I believe, got them back together. Replay as they say.
Funny thing is, They do not live together now. this is the second time they have broken up and moved out. Its like they cant live together. But she tends to sleepover when my D is there. H has been meaner than ever since then. H and i have no relationship. My life did go on, but it is soooo hard to understand how he could be so nasty.
That was January, ran into other woman a couple a months ago at the grocery store. She asked me how I could call her a whore..when I did speak to H , that is what I calld her. I'm sorry, but it is true. I explained to her I did call her that because,well, that is what she is. I wasn't angry, just honest. she told me to let H go, I explained to her i did but H had to stop questioning my D about my life. and unfortunately he wa still my husband.
H didn't see D for over 3 months after that. We didn't hear from him. I texted him because D would cry. Then he eventually started seeing her again.
I just cant understand why H is soo mean. H won't have a normal conversation w me. H wants to continue being nasty. i can't . It's not goood for your soul.
So, this is where we are at. I figure, if H was happy he could be ,at least, indifferent. But the opposite of love is hate.
Kiki Nice to see you seems the the ride is still a bit crazy one would hope at this point of 5 years the situation would hopefully change for the better I guess it is the same message from the start detach and take care of yourself there is no way to understand a crazy person who chooses to be mean and to not take anything personally peace
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow
