Beatrice, I would recognize that writing anywhere!!! I still have the same contact info!!! I have missed you (((Hugs)))
YellowRose. OY VEY!!!! You have already received the best advice fromn everyone here. Sending hugs and patience. You know how to get in touch if you need me. (((Huge Hugs)))
There can be no testimony without a test. I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.
OY VEY is right! thanks for the hugs! I really need it right now.
Today my son and his family came over for dinner. They usually do on Sundays, witch I love because I can love on everyone. My H was outside with our son and came in for dinner. He is more talkative right now and I responded. I went and did my usual stuff and kept myself busy. I stayed back and let him have his time. I still notice the distance and know it will take time. Patience is what I need and you all are helping keep me grounded. Thank you! Y
BND - tough ride, but feeling good. Email me? [I am not RCR!! btw]
YR apologies for threadjack once again. Glad h was a little better today, but remember it is going to be up and down. Praying for strength for you, and insight for your h. They go into a sort of half life don't they, when they pull away?
BND - tough ride, but feeling good. Email me? [I am not RCR!! btw]
Yeah, I think she knows that!
Yellowrose,
I'm so sorry you find yourself here again. Yours was a situation that concerned me due to the quick return. You and Butterflymom were the early return situations and I did not feel her situation was MLC so was less concerned.
But your MLCer did go fully into the tunnel and process. Had he been yanked out before or barely into processing I would be concerned that he would go back in and his crisis might very well be worse.
But that did not happen. Instead you learned to detach and the two of you worked together in rebuilding. That did a lot and he now feels safer with you. It makes his remaining issues easier to deal with because of that greater feeling of security. But as you are seeing, it does not mean he is not frightened.
Many former LBSs are so scared of a return to MLC that they may become kick’em to the curbers when unresolved MLC type issues resurface. The irony is that having learned how to detach, focus on Self and deal with an MLCer, they are better equipped. They don’t have to start from the beginning puddle of fear and despair. There may be an initial shock, but given your experience you should bounce more quickly. It seems you bounced immediately because though it is disturbing you say you feel calm. See, you’re already where you need to be.
Thanks for your words,1000 ships! I am hanging in there and doing what needs to be done. I am letting my H work through what he has to. Yes, it does get frustrating, but I am managing to keep my mouth shut after my outburst the other day.
One thing I know is that I will not let him run all over me, and so far that hasn't happened. Time is what he needs and I love him and hope he works through this.
You got this under control... You know it.. What will be will be..
I have missed you.. I received an email, telling me you posted & my first thought was I will run him over..
HA....
Chin up.. Let him do whatever it is he/they do... You do you.. Sorry for the hurt.. Amiga. Holding you up in love, prayers, & hugs mamasita... Ok.. *smacks tushy* luv u Lissett.. Lis
Live Simply Love Generously Care Deeply Speak Kindly Leave the rest to God
So H gets home from work tonight, he has a scrap of paper with a number on it with "duplex" written beside it. It was on the counter so I saw it. I asked him if he was looking for a place? He said he is keeping his options open.
