I am new to this board, but my story is on the newcomer board.
My W moved out to her own apartment down the street from our home last Saturday and signed a six month lease to start. She is in the middle of self discovering herself, our relationship, and sexual orientation. (She had a 10 month affair with OW that ended last month.)
We have a 6 month old son that we take 50/50 custody with. Switch every other night, so I see my W often. There is also a need for daily logistical calls and texts pertaining to this. We get a long great and are very friendly when we do see each other.
When she moved into her new place, she said she wanted it to be very accessible for me to spend time with our S as far as his bedtime routine, etc. I told her that I did not want to impose on her self discovery time, and she agreed to make it just a day or two a week when I don't have him.
We also have couples therapy once a week. Not to mention that we have a weekly "no R talk, no stress" dinner that we try and schedule once a week and both enjoy. These sessions and dinners are my chance to really show off my 180s.
With all of this contact, how do I give her that space? How do I properly detach? Are these contacts positive for us? Is it too much? If negative, how can it work?
Thanks!
Me - 33 W - 33 S - 9 months M - 3 years T - 5.5 years Bomb - 12/14/10 ILYBNILWY PA discovered - 1/18/11 PA began - 3/22/10 Separated
Are you comfortable with the 50/50? My H doesn't actually say the D word ever, but he has said that if things "come to it" we would do 50/50. That just seems impossible with an infant! So how long have you been doing this arrangement, and how long have you been DBing while doing this arrangement? Also, how does she feel about the baby in general?
