Falling Out of Love

[BobbiJo]

As usual I start with a song title...this is a 20 yr old song but I still like it!



He says he loves her...what can you say to that
He's made up his mind and there ain't nothin' you can do
So you swallow hard...maybe you drive all night
Tryin' to figure out where the whole thing started goin' wrong
And in the silence something begins to unravel
You never knew him like you'll be knowing him now

Fallin' out of love and back into your life
Pullin' your heart out from under the knife
Closin' the door on all those dreams you used to know
Fallin' out of love and back on your feet
Turnin' away from that dead end street
And finding out that nothing feels as good as letting go

That's when he calls you up out of the blue one day
And you know he thinks he's talkin' to the girl you used to be
So when you tell him he's just a memory
Ain't it funny how his voice cracks when you're sayin' goodbye
And in the silence something begins to unravel
He never knew you like he'll be knowing you now

Fallin' out of love and back into your life
Pullin' your heart out from under the knife
Closin' the door on all those dreams you used to know
Fallin' out of love and back on your feet
Turnin' away from that dead end street
And finding out that nothing feels as good as letting go

Oh and nothing feels as good as letting go

[BobbiJo]

Not sure what was wrong w/my computer but for the past week, every time I log in to this site, I get to the threads list, and as soon as I click on one, it says I am not logged in. So I log in again, click on a thread, and then am suddenly not logged in again!! Frustrating...

So I will post a quickie and then check on all of you.

I must say I was a pillar of strength yesterday. Dan had sent the kids to me Sunday in spring jackets as it was almost 70 and stayed that way monday/tuesday.

Wednesday instead the high was 38! So I needed their winter coats. I got the key to Dan's house from his parents so I could go in and get their jackets....it was a tempting situation at first but only for a few seconds. Then I realized there was nothing there that would benefit me to know about, so I resisted my urges, went in with my son, got the coats, and walked out. And took the key immediately back to the in laws so I would avoid further temptation!

In other news, I rejoined match for one month just to see what is out there...a guy I was really close to freshman year of college was on there! We were total partners in crime, of the harmless variety, back then. Spoke the same language of sarcasm and hung out for hours pretty much every day. Then he transferred to Iowa State sophomore year. Nothing ever happened with us bc I was dating Dan at the time, but he was a great friend.

Well he emailed me earlier this week, wondering what on earth a 'girl like me' was doing on match, that the pickings must be slim in my neck of the woods. Wanted to get together to catch up. He lives two hours from here... I told him that sounded like fun so we'll see if anything comes of it.

Oh, and my D starts her first year of soccer on Saturday unfortunately we just got 2" snow and will get some more tomorrow...not sure how they play soccer in that stuff!

[ClingingToHope]

Funny about Match.com, one of STBXW's friends is on there and keeps popping up as a match for me. She's been divorced twice, cheated on both hubbys. Cheated on both while engaged then during marriage.

I wonder what she thought when I popped up on her page. I don't doubt that she emailed STBXW.

I just have the profile on there and am not paying for a membership right now. I plan on waiting until the D is final.

In my case, STBXW lives in our old house so it is EXTREMELY hard to be there and ... I always feel like snooping. I avoid the place as much as possible now, which is hard because it's three blocks from me.

[BobbiJo]

We live two blocks apart, literally like .2 miles. I find it convenient bc if something is forgotten it takes a minute to run it to either house. Yet we cannot see each other's houses without purposely driving by, both of us are on side streets so I don't have to worry that we cross paths much. Although today ironically I did pull up behind him at the corner of the street leaving our subdivision--I was taking kids to school and he was going to work. Kids noticed him but I don't think he saw us. They told me once that daddy drives by my/our house when he takes them home almost every time. Which is interesting bc he would have to go out of his way to do that!

I was tempted for about a seond but really there's nothing in it for me to snoop. It would probably dredge up those yucky feelings I had during his A when I was snooping. And now, whether I love the idea or not, he is single and so if he is still dating ow or anyone else, he is free to do so.

[ClingingToHope]

If you are catching up on threads, I kind of snooped last week. My daughter left her Facebook page up. She's friends with STBXW so I checked out her page and saw a photo gallery of her trip last August that sent me in a two-day tailspin.

When I am over at the house I try to get in and out as soon as possible. I remember in February though being over there and STBXW left her legal bill out. She hadn't seen her attorney since before October.

A couple of days later I was at a divorce rebuilding class and a guy at my table said he'd been separated but not divorced since 2004. That shook me up. I don't want to be divorced, but I also don't want to be in limbo for seven years and it didn't appear as if STBXW was doing anything.

So I instructed my attorney to send a settlement offer.

I am mostly able to avoid the old house -- although its visible from the main drag when I go to work.

I live in a fairly big area -- 200,000 -- in three main cities and STBXW does her partying with her biker buddies in a town 30 minutes north -- so we've run into each other just a couple of times outside of when I know I'll see her.

[mishka422]

What cha up to chica?