Your Week Ahead: Every so often, things have to work out well. Not because we have been particularly clever or earned merit points in the eyes of some ever-diligent deity. Just because things go so badly most of the time, that if we didn't have a rare moment of triumph to compare them to, we would have no awareness of how life could be better. Thus, we would feel less disappointed and life would lose some of its ability to frustrate us. So we have to be given at least an occasional taste of something good! How good will things be for you this week? Surprisingly so, if you allow them to be.
Your Week Ahead - Love Focus: Your love life is changing. An important emotional journey has only just begun. Don't judge it by what has happened so far - or by how uncomfortable you may feel - or by what you appear to have recently lost or gained. You are going through a process that will last for many months to come... and will certainly continue to change and develop very rapidly over the next few weeks. Give it more time. The music hasn't stopped. The show isn't over. Carry on watching, waiting and trusting. A difficult drama will yet have an outcome that lifts your heart and lightens your load.
"If you strike me down, I will become more powerful than you can possibly imagine!" 1st thread
Gosh, CW! What a turnaround. FWIW, I wouldn't let him come home until OW is completely out of the picture, and you are in MC. If, this is what you want, of course. Don't let him manipulate you into doing what you don't want to do.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
Wow! I really need to get my thoughts in order! I came on here earlier and replied to all your posts and I don't see it! I must be so rattled that I forgot to hit the submit button! D'oh!
I appreciate all your thoughts, advice and prayers! I have found my DR book and dusted it off!
Keep munching on the popcorn...will see where this goes!
WN...I read my canier last night and thought it was pretty interesting but now how scarily accurate it is after what happened today!
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Hi CW, Yes, I feel lilke we are avidly awaiting the next scene (since we are talking about popcorn and movies).
At the same time, let me add my prayers to every one elses'. I think a lot of it depends on how you show that the road home is still paved and smooth. While not making it too easy, don't make it hard either.
Maybe his leaning on the financial aspect is to cushion any hurt that may come from rejection.
I remember selling our first home and sitting on the porch one last time and relieving all the memories - the sadness of leaving something behind, with finality, that had so many good memories....
I feel like in your sitch, the finality of it all is waking up his emotions. Hopefully, this is his final turn around, but again, it may only be a window of opportunity to do something.
Praying for you that you will be guided by the Lord on how to handle this.
Me:49 H:45 D:12 M:14 T:18 Bomb: 6/26/10 EA: 9/3/10, fizzled out slowly, now ??? 11/5/11 Retrouvaille Finally piecing.... Its peaceful at last, but we got a looong way to go
Praying for you that you will be guided by the Lord on how to handle this.
That is exactly what I am praying for angel!!!
Small update
H called me at work today. He called his L and had the court date continued for another month. He has not talked with OW yet...plans to do so this weekend. He asked me what the kids said and I told him I had not told them anything yet...he mentioned again that I could tell them.
Trying to keep the expectations at zero and praying for strength for both of us!
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Ok guys! I have finally found some time to post an update! I was planning to last Thursday but we had an emergency! I could smell smoke and the lights started flickering and we discovered that the fuse box was smoking so ended up calling the fire dept! The good news is it never caught fire but it melted everything so I now have a new box with breakers rather than the old fuses!
My H has come home. He called me a week ago Friday and said he had told OW and packed some things and was on his way.
I don't want to bore you all with every detail so will try and summarize...
He is living here...we decided we could not afford for him to live separately. He works nights so we are sharing the master bedroom without any problems.
He has said several times that he made the biggest mistake of his life. He has agreed to look for a different job (he works with OW), an STD test and total transparency. We have a plan on getting our finacial house in order.
He told me that he laid awake worried about me and the kids and missed us.
Since he has been home, he has repaired several things that needed it. He has mentioned "future" things.
It is weird...H was gone for 16mos and it almost feels as if he was never gone!
A couple of things that H told me last night about OW. He never had ANY time to himself and she always acted disappointed when it was his weekend with the kids.
Things are not perfect...I still need to learn to keep my expectations low to none!
I will update as I am able.
Happy Mother's day to all you wondeful Mother's!!!!
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