Hey guys...finding a few minutes ALONE to update! H is at a bb game with SS and GS's!!! All is going along smoothly so far...H did sign for another job and had an interview but lost it to a more experienced worker...he will keep on trying. We have yet to get our finances in some kind of order...we still have seperate accts and he is only giving me what he was when we were separated although he did buy a new battery for my car today. This is something that is bothering me and we did discuss it the other day but we do need to talk about it some more. I swear he picked the worst time to come home (I hate to even say that out loud!) but it has just been very busy with the end of the school year, getting the kids settled for summer etc etc!!! We have not had time or maybe I should say "made time" to really sit down and talk! We have talked about cleaning up the rental house and getting it rented for extra income but that has not happened yet! He has always been a bit of a procrastinator and that hasn't changed apparently!!!
We did go camping as a family over the Memorial Day weekend and it was fun despite the rainy, cool weather! This weekend is my birthday and I am hoping that he and I will go out tomorrow night...sans kids!
The big news is that H dismissed the divorce yesterday! I feel like a little weight has been lifted off my shoulders! I know that that does not mean that we are "safe" from it happening again and that we still have much work to do to ensure that it doesn't happen again!
I just wanted to let you know what is happening so far.... You are all in my thoughts and prayers every night!!!
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It is really great to read your update!!!! I'm SO happy for you and your beautiful children! It does sound as though the pressure is off a bit since your H dismissed the D. You are very wise to remain vigilant about not sweeping what happened under the rug. Continue DB'ing and reconnecting in a truly intimate way. From what I've read on these boards over the past 2 1/2 years and in the many books I've read on this topic, if you can create a truly intimate R with H, including the ability to really communicate back and forth, your M will be happier and stronger than it was before.
Just wanted to stop by and say how happy I am for you!
God Bless, Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
Hi hun! So pleased to hear your news! GAG filled me in when chatting..
Fantastic that H has made such huge moves, but having had my H do the same (although no OW) he came home due to financial reasons too. I have one thing to bang home about BOUNDARIES, dont get carried away with all the fun of things and forget yours! You have a very long way to go hun, and not wishing to put a damper on things steady really is the name of the game.
Some thing to be positive is that my H moved home about nearly eighteen months ago, we worked on things and are now very happy, we spent the first year with no money and he had no job for nearly nine months, but this month was our 25th anniversary and he swept me off my feet with a wonderful weekend vacation to Vienna, my darling H is back and yes it was worth all the hard work!
So chin up and feet firmly forward hun! So so pleased for you I remember that first chat we had just after your H had gone and you have come such a long way in your personal growth, hang on tight to that its precious!
Will pop back soon
Rabbit xx
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Once lost but now found and happily married again!
Hello everyone and thankyou for the birthday wishes and the well wishes and prayers!
GAG-I hope all is going well with you! Thankyou for your always wise words!
Lorie-your prayers are very welcome!
Eric-thankyou for stopping by! I hope you are doing well!
SA-thankyou for the birthday wishes!
LR-good to "see" you! I didn't think you were posting here anymore!
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I remember that first chat we had just after your H had gone
I remember that chat very well LR! I was in a very bad place and you helped me so much that day! And again very wise words in your post about boundaries!!! I am so happy to read that all is going along well for you and your H!!!
Last night, H took me out to dinner for my birthday! We roadtripped and talked and H admitted to me last night that OW is still very much trying to get him to leave...last week she offered to buy him nascar tickets for an upcoming race! He didn't want to tell me as he was afraid of my reaction. I actually laughed when he told me...maybe not the best reaction but it was not one he expected! It really is not funny at all...it is very sad that she is resorting to bribery. I hope that he will get a job away from her soon...
M48 H53 M16 T18 S16 D13 SS30 H drops bomb PA/8-30-09 H leaves 12-30-09 D filed by H 2-10 H asks to come home 4-11 Piecing
I'm SO happy for you and your beautiful children! It does sound as though the pressure is off a bit since your H dismissed the D. You are very wise to remain vigilant about not sweeping what happened under the rug. Continue DB'ing and reconnecting in a truly intimate way. From what I've read on these boards over the past 2 1/2 years and in the many books I've read on this topic, if you can create a truly intimate R with H, including the ability to really communicate back and forth, your M will be happier and stronger than it was before.