I think everyone of us can relate to your experience with OW and her foul language. I am so sorry you had to go through that. It is heartwrenching that our children have to be around such trash. You handled it very well and you should continue to fight for what is right with the children.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
You're right Eric...Im just not quite ready to let go yet. I want to, but Im afraid to in a way.
And what I meant by his words not meaning anything anymore is that they dont affect me the way they use to.
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
My H asked me a question last night that was "perplexing" him. (yes, that was his word). He first came over to drop kids off to me. He took them to supper last night. He came in and I was busy looking for some cords to a dvd player. He tried to help me find the right one and came across a couple that he had been looking for. Then he mentioned how good I smelled and what kind of perfume I had been wearing...I answered with "same kind as always". Well after finding what I needed he backed up against the counter in the kitchen and said he wanted to ask me a question....a question that had been perplexing him (not sure thats really a word but I knew what he meant) I just said Ok, go for it. He wanted to know if I was hoping that he would still come home. I werent sure how to answer, I was caught off guard by that question. I told him I just was living my life one day at a time and trying to not think about that. I didnt want to get into it really...but then he said "well, actually it was my therapist and I who was talking about it". It somehow then came up that He thought I may have a boyfriend or 2 because I had stopped texting him and he thought that was why. OK, if he thought i had a boyfriend, then why the question of was I waiting on him to come home??
Just odd timing on the conversation last night. Not exactly sure what he was digging for....if I was still waiting for him? Or if I had a boyfriend? Or just being nosey...which is possible too.
Idk....just had the whole conversation on my mind this morning.
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
A lot of times they feel the need to keep you close. He may have been testing the waters.
What is it that Kissak wants?
That is the question…
Oh....and remember...ACTIONS not WORDS.
God Bless, Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
All I want is to be happy and not have to worry about a man running around on me and lying to me. I have that right now. Basically because I dont have a man, lol. Im content for now. I still continue to pray for him and have hope that he will change his ways and come to his senses. Im not sitting around "waiting" on that to happen though. Im living my life. His actions show me nothing but the same. He is who he is for now....maybe forever.
Thanks for replying Eric
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
I also have to laugh a little at the fact he thinks that Im waiting on him to come home....mainly because he didnt leave me this last time...I threw him out! lol, why would I be waiting for something I threw out to come back??? lol...sorry, just saw a little humor there
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
I'm smiling....I am so proud of you! Keep praying for him and keep living YOUR life.
Everything in your life is a choice, which means that YOU can always change your mind.
Off I go to Newport RI....have a good weekend.
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
Kissak, I hope you have a wonderful July 4th. Something that has me perplexed about your posts..... Yes it really is a word...it means a tad confused. Tad means a little. Anyways, why do you write the word "weren't" instead of wasn't? I have noticed this alot and although this may seem petty, it really is begining to bother me. Take care,
There can be no testimony without a test. I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.
Kissak, I hope you have a wonderful July 4th. Something that has me perplexed about your posts..... Yes it really is a word...it means a tad confused. Tad means a little. Anyways, why do you write the word "weren't" instead of wasn't? I have noticed this alot and although this may seem petty, it really is begining to bother me. Take care,
Well I'm certainly perplexed BND. Is that you, or has someone hacked your username?
You've been off-the-radar for over 6 months, then you pop in to make a comment about gorgeous Kissak's grammar??
1. I've just read through this entire thread and I didn't notice one instance of your example - if it's there, I suspect it's a charming trick of accent - I love how you can hear Kissak's accent come through in her writing.
2. Are you off your medication? I've read you for years, and I expect more from a woman of your experience on this board than this cheeky post - when you can clearly see that this amazing young woman has been doing some really hard work on herself and making some incredibly good decisions about her life.
Kissak - I don't post to you very often, but I think you are amazing. You really have put up with a lot from your husband over the years, and you are really taking charge of your life and standing up for yourself. It's a very cool thing to witness. I agree with Eric, that there is a little part of you that still fears completely letting him go. You don't need to fear it. As Eric says, live your life. Just keep filling up your life and literally take the spotlight in your head off him and keep putting it back on to you.
Kissak - I don't post to you very often, but I think you are amazing. You really have put up with a lot from your husband over the years, and you are really taking charge of your life and standing up for yourself. It's a very cool thing to witness. I agree with Eric, that there is a little part of you that still fears completely letting him go. You don't need to fear it. As Eric says, live your life. Just keep filling up your life and literally take the spotlight in your head off him and keep putting it back on to you.
She is quite amazing, isn't she, Walking?
~ swl
p.s. the rest of your post was spot on as well. Talk about perplexing, eh?
Look not mournfully into the past. It comes not back again. Wisely improve the present. It is thine. Go forth to meet the shadowy future, without fear. {Henry Wadsworth Longfellow}
