It's sad, but when they are in the infatuation stage, it's like a drug. My DB counselor mentioned the endorphins, dopamine, etc.... feel good stuff during that stage that makes them do stupid $hit like choose time wiht OW over S.
Once reality hits him and the infatuation becomes stark reality, it will bite him hard the way he's acting now - especially where a child is concerned!
Me (f): 45 W(f) 35 T: 13 y C: S4 adopted at birth 6-18-11 bomb: I want to break up 8-28-11 OW confirmed
In Shock - I think there's a chance you might be right, but I think there's a stronger chance you might be wrong - hence my theory that he's very likely to just move down to be with her and abandon his son.
And although the thought really bothers me, if it's going to happen, I'd like it to hurry up so that we can start to heal.
H: 39, Me: 37 SD: 18, S: 7 M: 9, T: 10 "I love you but am not in love with you" - 5/11 Discovered online affair - 7/11
I know what you mean completely about wanting whatever's going to happen to be done. But how long has he known this woman? How much time have they really spent together (not on the Internet - in real world) and that sort of thing. I still go with the infatuation/newness and it wearing off at some point.
The question is do YOU WAIT? NO. You take care of you and then if he does come back and ask you for a chance, you are in control.
Me (f): 45 W(f) 35 T: 13 y C: S4 adopted at birth 6-18-11 bomb: I want to break up 8-28-11 OW confirmed
Doing ok today, despite STBX being out of town, missing time with his son in favour of spending time with his adulteress.
But, I met someone this weekend - nothing serious, it's too soon, but a really fascinating guy with a musical background that is absolutely astounding. He's sweet and it's been a good distraction, so that's nice.
H: 39, Me: 37 SD: 18, S: 7 M: 9, T: 10 "I love you but am not in love with you" - 5/11 Discovered online affair - 7/11
