I met a man today who divorced and remarried his wife - twice.
Interesting thing was that each divorce involved them taking turns being the WAS. He noted that the M was almost easy now that they'd worked through pretty much everything.
I'd expected to hear about several children (ties that bind), but they didn't have any.
In my sitch, my W and I broke off an engagement after 4 yrs together, now she wants a D after asking for a S for 8 months. Based on her anger and coldness and likelihood of OM, I think it's likely to happen. But she was involved w him before, broke it off and came back to me prior to our M.
Not sure if any of this means any more than a hill of beans.
It remains my hope to keep my positive changes going and to make the most of my life regardless.
Was on TV this morning for a news interview. When we were broken up before, it annoyed her when I was on TV, as folks would mention it to her.
My father is coming into town this weekend to look at homes. It'll be great to have my parents in town (if it works out). Family is a wonderful support system.
I think I've figured out that there's no quick fix to my sitch, no new person who can end my pain, that I merely need to be patient and focus on me. Hence the guitar lessons and workout/running efforts.
There were roughly 5 years between my 1st D and 2nd M. I can see how you might think that is quick, but it seems like a reasonable amount of time to wait for me. I firmly sat on the shelf after the first D, not dating for 1 year prior to dipping my toe into the dating pool again.
You're right it is is best for me to wait things out and focus on just me - my personal growth, my financial recovery, my son.
Reaching out for her - hugs, asking for a kiss, etc... iniitially, it was hard for me to adjust to how quickly things became negative. But now it is clear she wants nothing to do with me.
