My will for getting back is not so strong due to the long time we spent separated. I get used to being alone. I know that she easily could reject me when I make my first mistake. The only way for long lasting relationship is giving birth to a second child. There is another factor - our material status. I have nothing and she is rich heiress. That's why I doubt that our relationship has bright future.
Today we visited the new school of our daughter. Then three of us had dessert in a nearby restaurant. In the evening I helped her moving in, and 2-3 other tedious chores. Later she again got on the topic about OM. I think she is feeling a little bit guilty about that. I left her flat at about 12am and she still was willing to talk and share. She is feeling very comfortable around me.
This evening I mounted hangers in the entrance. My ex offered to make me a salad and I didn't resist. We spent the evening watching TV, chit chatting and preparing school stuff of our daughter.
Nukem, I am new to this site but not new to infidelity and have been dealing with a WS for a long time. Are things actually progressing with you and your ex wife or is she just using you to get some chores done?
I am asking this because there were times I thought my husband wanted to reconcile but it was the drama that was keeping him and his OW together. They needed me more than they knew.
Please don't be available everytime she calls. Date, it doesn't have to be a relationship, but she divorced you didn't she? If she seriously wants you back she will stop calling you to come do stuff for her and will call you just to call you.
WS moves out 9/11 OWH DD#1 12/11 FR#1 1/12 DD#2 2/12 WS leaves 4/12 WS tries FR#2 6/12 WS/OW move in 7/12 WS leaves OW 9/12 WS back with other OW 12/12 Said OW demanding we D 5/14/13 WS files divorce 8/28/13
Nukem, I am new to this site but not new to infidelity and have been dealing with a WS for a long time. Are things actually progressing with you and your ex wife or is she just using you to get some chores done?
I am asking this because there were times I thought my husband wanted to reconcile but it was the drama that was keeping him and his OW together. They needed me more than they knew.
Please don't be available everytime she calls. Date, it doesn't have to be a relationship, but she divorced you didn't she? If she seriously wants you back she will stop calling you to come do stuff for her and will call you just to call you.
WS moves out 9/11 OWH DD#1 12/11 FR#1 1/12 DD#2 2/12 WS leaves 4/12 WS tries FR#2 6/12 WS/OW move in 7/12 WS leaves OW 9/12 WS back with other OW 12/12 Said OW demanding we D 5/14/13 WS files divorce 8/28/13
I think things are progressing. She calls me regularly just for chit chat or about our D. Her affair is over. When we were together not answering her calls was a big problem. Being available at any time is crucial. I dated 3 women since January 2013 but I prefer loneliness.
Do you still need your husband? Would you reconcile after the end of his affair. I think if you want him back you should keep in touch.
This evening I went to her flat. She wanted me to connect the components of her home cinema system. After finishing the task she asked me to stay there for a while. While seeing me off at the door she hugged me and we stood so for some time. when I got home I received a phone call from her asking me whether I had got home.
I do want him back. He refuses to speak to me. If I call he sends me to voicemail. If I text he "pretends" he didn't get it. Maybe he isn't, maybe she is. I said that maybe someone else is getting his texts and he said he is the only person who touches his phone and it is always with him.
Yesterday I said I wanted to sit down one last time together before we part for good and he ignored me. I said that the least he could do is just say no, there is no reason to treat me this way, he said, say no to what? He claims he didn't get that text either. He said he doens't know how to talk to me so he just won't. But his mom wants to see me for lunch on Friday... she is moving it will be the last time I ever see her.
My husband did that too, the constant calls but he would always remind me we were not together he moved on and that I should too. Over time, the longing and the refusal to even try gets to you. I can't be just his friend. I want more. So we just faded away and don't speak and will be divorced soon. I don't even know when because I never signed anything.
WS moves out 9/11 OWH DD#1 12/11 FR#1 1/12 DD#2 2/12 WS leaves 4/12 WS tries FR#2 6/12 WS/OW move in 7/12 WS leaves OW 9/12 WS back with other OW 12/12 Said OW demanding we D 5/14/13 WS files divorce 8/28/13
