We filed last week. It's final in 3 months. We have something else to sign in between then.
He still says random things that could be construed as being unsure or whatever but it's not my problem. I don't want him back.
I've been dating someone for 6 weeks now. He's a whole lot of what I want and I'm still getting to know him. I updated my thread and I'm becoming a lot more okay with the unknown.
Hope you are doing wonderful!!! Other than this and the step parent forum do you have any other online profiles?
i'm so glad you're happy. things have a way of working out, no?
i'm not on any other things on line. no time, really. this and the step-parenting forum take up a lot of my time.
i came home today, after H had mown the lawn and fixed a light fixture. he left a note that he had forgotten the letter he was going to bring and will bring it by one day this week.
he said he's suffering some back and leg pain and it's been difficult for him to walk in the mornings (sounds like sciatica). he thinks that was a big contributor to the forgetfulness.
we texted a several time, back and forth. he's very pleasant and funny; more like his old self. i'm feeling more comfortable with him, too, especially, since he asked for forgiveness and admitted he was ashamed of some of his past behavior.
not much more to tell. i'll post what the letter says when it comes.
thanks for all the support and wishing you all peace.
M:63 H:53 S:41, SS:28, SS:25, SD:23 M:15 T:16
Bomb:12/17/11, "I think we should go our separate ways." H moves to his mother's house, 4/1/12 12/21/12: H moves back home, piecing
Hey CV, thanks for dropping in. H is still moving towards R. He forgot to bring the letter the last time he came to the house to take care of the lawn. His mother's house is about an hour from here so I'm not sure when I'll get it. I am having shoulder surgery later this month and purposely did not involve him. I was to have the help of my DIL but found out yesterday that she can't do it because of a conflict with her son's school. She was willing to do part of it, have my son do another part, and my stepgrandson do the third part. Too much confusion and room for error for me so I texted H and asked him.
His response was that he would be "honored" to help me and that I can count on him! He asked if he could spend the night before the surgery day since it's first thing the next morning.
So, I guess things are going well. I'm enjoying each day and not expecting anything, which makes my life less stressful. I think R is very possible. My only concern is if he will be able to accept that, going forward, I don't want as much involvement with his kids and his family. He's acknowledged that the kids are "grown and gone".
Every interaction with him is positive now.
How's your world? Hope you're finding some peace and contentment? I see your advice on here to others and I've found helping others helps me. I hope it's working that way for you, too.
M:63 H:53 S:41, SS:28, SS:25, SD:23 M:15 T:16
Bomb:12/17/11, "I think we should go our separate ways." H moves to his mother's house, 4/1/12 12/21/12: H moves back home, piecing
Thank you LA and grace. You are both very strong ladies, too. Anyone going through what we're going through gets stronger.
I think we find out that we have strength we never knew about. If we just keep nurturing ourselves and wanting wants best for us, the strength will come.
Don't settle for less.
M:63 H:53 S:41, SS:28, SS:25, SD:23 M:15 T:16
Bomb:12/17/11, "I think we should go our separate ways." H moves to his mother's house, 4/1/12 12/21/12: H moves back home, piecing
I'm glad to hear the lack of news wasn't bad news. I was concerned things had gone south and you just weren't talking about it. Truly a relief. A success story here is always a breath of fresh air.
Good luck with your surgery! I hope it's something simple so we don't have to worry about you. And your H being willing to accommodate is positive on so many fronts.
Yes, I've been floating around and posting occasionally. It's always easier to see the way from the outside looking in. And I still wanted to keep up with a few people that I had followed for a while. There's a lot of good people here, ya know?
That's so nice of you to say! I feel the same about you. I'm praying for your sitch and really hope for the best for you, whichever way it's supposed to go.
