Really an engagement ring for the ow after 4 semi serious months? Are you serious? And this ow sends a pic.
Me:37 H:38 6 kids first bomb 8/05 (ow involved) piecing 7/06 second bomb 3/07 ow involved wash rinse repeat.... huge move to start over 2/11 more affairs H left for good 8/12
LL. Stop. Move on. It's been ?6 years. That's the best advice I can give you. It should be 'who cares'? I've been out 2 years now. I am getting to the point of being able to invite XW's BF to the next big event in my son's life. Let go. Hugs. FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
I understand your points. Its been 7 years but only 4 months with this one. But. I get. It.
Me:37 H:38 6 kids first bomb 8/05 (ow involved) piecing 7/06 second bomb 3/07 ow involved wash rinse repeat.... huge move to start over 2/11 more affairs H left for good 8/12
how are you doing these days? I pray and hope you are moving on and feeling stronger with time away from your wacky h.
I don't care if he's happier or miserable or thinks he's happy or miserable b/c he simply is not an "index" for YOUR happiness.
You have to be in charge of your life and your happiness. He's out the door and honestly, his behavior has been so weird and outrageous and he's been such a bad father, what's there to say but that you are truly, honestly, better off without him?
Their "laughter" isn't real. it's cruel. It's not attractive. It's mean/evil.
I'd use that behavior^^ as confirmation of that, and I'd never miss it. Seriously, who needs that darkness in your life?
When you file for a divorce it should help you financially. And anytime you think you have to buy food for your son don't.
Just document that there was no food and bring him something ready to eat. And stop bringing him over there if there's not any food for him. It's bad for him. It's also neglectful of your h.
He'll lose the right to any time with his kids by behaving that way.
Document. Document and get your L to act so you can feed your kids and pay your bills.
As for a 26 y/o dating a married man with 6 kids....hey, neither of them has caught a winner. No wonder they spend so much time trying to convince themselves of their weirdness being a victory...
you're the one who has a clean conscience even if you feel hurt. You've been in a reactive mode you need to get out of though.
You need to simply let him go, as FIB said.
Seriously, this has gone on for way too long.
"this OW for 4 months" versus the other OWs before, isn't the issue. The fact that he's a serial cheater is.
Seriousy, Lisa haven't you and your kids been put through enough?
It's up to YOU to stop this crazy cycle. HE won't stop it. YOU MUST protect your children and yourself--- b/c only you can.
Now's a good time to do that. Better late than never and you still have many good years ahead.
Imagine your life without him but with you being happy.
I told you to do that months ago. Try it now...please.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
