And So The End Is Near...

[Intact]

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As the title suggests the end is near...

After much soul searching and looking inside myself I have decided to file for divorce. I have made an appointment with my Lawyer for next week and also wrote a nice letter to my W stating my intentions.

I don't know what's bought me to this point. But I know I'm happy and I know I'm done. I'll always have regret as this isn't what I wanted for our Son - but it's what she wanted.

I'm no longer angry towards her - I want her to be happy. Our Son will need her too be happy - so wherever her journey takes her I really hope it gives her everything she wants and needs.

My marriage broke down just a few months ago, and thanks to Divorce Busting I have learnt so much about myself.

I will continue to come to these boards as we will always be co-parents together.

In the meantime I want to thank everybody that has taken the time to comment on my threads. I thank you from the bottom of my heart for your time, advice and support. I hope everybody posting on here gets the happy ending that they deserve. You should all be proud for standing for your marriage.

Since December I have had the toughest and darkest of times I think I'll ever experience - because of the people on this board I never walked alone and no amount of thanks will ever show the gratitude I have towards you.

[Kim65]

Although this is something that we are all attempting to avoid, I take my hat off to you for knowing when your done.

I can feel that you really do wish your wife well and I commend you for it.

I only hope I can be so gracious if and when that time comes for me?

I wish you well, and I'm sure your future will be bright!!

[Intact]

Thank you Kim, that's much appreciated.

I do wish her well.

Hope you get the happy ending to your switch too.

[Maritimer]

Wow thats a big move, Glad you found clarity in your journey. Its much more challenging when children are involved.

[Intact]

Thank you Maritimer. To be honest I feel like the weight of the world has been lifted off my shoulders.

The more I thought about it the clearer it became. I like the person I have become through this journey - and the truth is I don't like the person my Wife has become. I knew I would never be able to respect her again as far as our marriage was concerned.

After realising all of that, it was a very simple decision.

[JuneReN]

Kudos to you Intact, because this is really what DB is all about; finding yourself and making the decisions you need to in order to be happy. When these decisions are not made out of any emotion that guides you, you know it is the right one for YOU!

Cheers!

[Intact]

Thank you Kate's_Place - there's no emotion now. I'm not angry with her, bitter with her. As I said I really want her to be happy because ultimately that will benefit my Son.

Seen as my year started so badly I have just booked myself a holiday for the last 2 weeks of Dec in California - so at least it will end on a high!

[Intact]

Just seen my W she's not happy at all that I'm filing. Very strange, but I can't change her feelings about it. I'm very much at ease with it.

[Breakdown]

Intact, every time I read your sitch, you seemed to have a huge focus on your W. You seemed to really struggle to find you again, to focus on you and become who you want to be. I'm really glad you seem to be getting there.

But, now that you're getting there, you're immediately filing for D and starting to see OW? Timing seems a bit odd wouldn't you say?

I don't know what's bought me to this point. But I know I'm happy and I know I'm done. I'll always have regret as this isn't what I wanted for our Son - but it's what she wanted.

You sure you don't know? Let's look closer:

I've met someone I really like. Have to stress here that I've done nothing about it but its seriously given me something to think about.

This was massively unexpected but I can honestly say for the first time since it began I'm not worried about my sitch or consumed by what my wife is or isn't doing...

I agree...first time I've heard you not consumed about your W. You see it? Do you really get it?

I'm no longer angry towards her - I want her to be happy. Our Son will need her too be happy - so wherever her journey takes her I really hope it gives her everything she wants and needs.

This is really excellent....but have you really forgiven her? Have you really let go of the anger? Or are you just trying to convince us because you want to move on now that there's another option on the table?

My marriage broke down just a few months ago, and thanks to Divorce Busting I have learnt so much about myself.

Hasn't been very long has it? Are you really being honest with yourself? Do you see how easily that allure of someone else is when your struggling with your own sitch?

No judgement from me, so I hope you don't take it that way. You have to live with your own choices. I just hope you are really being honest with yourself and from what I'm reading, I don't think you are.

[jp787]

No judgement from me, so I hope you don't take it that way. You have to live with your own choices. I just hope you are really being honest with yourself and from what I'm reading, I don't think you are.

I would have to agree here.

I can see where finding someone else could take the hurt and pain away... Or at least make it feel that way.

I would really look deep inside for an honest view.

Only looking out for you, honest!!!