W has been emailing me all morning about divorce details. MIL has gone to an attorney and will be approaching me with an offer. I am so ready to quit dealing with this child. Mommy can take her back for a while.
M - 42 W- 37 S's - 9,6 M-12 T-14 FIL- diagnosed with fatal disease spring 2011 ILYBNILWY - march '12 FIL - died jan '13 W Moved out week later
Thinking about you and praying for you Mtnman. Keep strong for those boys. You will be fine and so will they. They are lucky to have a rock like you to cling to in this storm. Show them how to be a real man.
And let Mommy have her child. You guys don't need that mess.
Both 40 T-22 M-18 S13 S11
Bomb, ILYBINILWY-7/10/13 EA #1-confirmed 7/10/13, ongoing since 5/13 EA #2-9/13/13
Thanks JF! I continue to get emails regarding settlement proposals. I ways respond politely and her response is always, "I'll let u know after talking to mom."
I cycle between periods of relief and sadness but she isn't the woman I married and it's best if I let her go to save me and the boys.
Thanks for all your prayers. They do make a difference.
M - 42 W- 37 S's - 9,6 M-12 T-14 FIL- diagnosed with fatal disease spring 2011 ILYBNILWY - march '12 FIL - died jan '13 W Moved out week later
My suggestion? Stop replying to the settlement proposals lol. Just send one email to her and say that when Mom decides, then we can move forward with this. So, let me know when she has an offer and a plan. You might as well wait for the concrete instead of the what if we do it this way stuff.
Things are apparently still headed toward D here. W claims to be working on the papers.
She wrecked her car two days after Christmas and it appears to be totaled. She was close enough to home that she was able to get back. No police report and no injuries. Alcohol was involved.
Because of her having no car, we've been spending lots of time together. At least for comings and goings but far less time together at home.
I go from periods of acceptance and even times that I'm anxious to have this behind me. Other times I refuse to believe this could happen.
This cold weather causes me to miss her terribly bad. Ahhhhhhh! Why do I have to be so cold natured?
M - 42 W- 37 S's - 9,6 M-12 T-14 FIL- diagnosed with fatal disease spring 2011 ILYBNILWY - march '12 FIL - died jan '13 W Moved out week later
Keep strong MTnman. What she does or doesn't do will never define you. That's the most important acceptance. It is what it is right now. Your legacy in the world is your own mark and your boys. Head held high & strong.
Both 40 T-22 M-18 S13 S11
Bomb, ILYBINILWY-7/10/13 EA #1-confirmed 7/10/13, ongoing since 5/13 EA #2-9/13/13
So sorry things are moving in that direction. I will say that just because she says she is working on the papers doesnt mean she is.
I am sorry she got into an accident and that alcohol is involved. Thank God she is ok.
As for your feelings being all over the place, limbo can do that to you.
I know it's so hard to get your mind around all this. The thing is that many times the MLCer has to see it through. Doesnt mean there isnt still hope for the future if you still have it.
She may need to go through with this in order to come out the other side. She will see that she is still not happy. And she wont be, because she is not out of crisis. The hope is that she will then look within.
I will tell you that she can feel that you are not moving forward. She can feel that you are not accepting this. As long as she does, she will feel the need to pull away. Because you see, in her mind, you arent hearing her.
As hard as it is, you need to accept that this is how it is at the moment. I will not always be.
You need to continue to move forward and live your life. Keep growing, keep challenging yourself, GAL as much as you can, try new things.
Remember that your children are watching. You get to show them how to navigate through life's tough spots. Show them well.
I know this isnt what you want, sweetie. But its what you got right now. Your choice on how you do it.
I think you will do it with dignity, strength and courage.
