Rise & Shine III

[labug]

I don't mean where you are geographically.

[bluesgal]

Hey 3-Sounds like your gut instinct may be telling you something...

Maybe it's time to do more than vent/talk at your sessions.

[mj0221]

3,
I wanted to chime in on the IC. I started off with one exactly how yours sounds, me doing most of the talking. I eventually got to the point after a couple months that I felt I wasn't getting what I needed from her, she wasnt giving me solutions, pointers, etc.

My D11 was going to a male IC at the time whom I came to love because I always spent 5 minutes in her session with her and he made me think in just those 5 min. I always said I wouldn't use her same person but I ended up asking him to take me on.

I have been seeing him once a week since and I can't even begin to tell you the difference from the first IC. He doesn't necessarily give me homework. But he makes me think, dig deep, hes been for working on ME for if H came home or for any other relationship and me being ok with myself.

I'm so glad I switched. I hope that gives you a bit of perspective from someone in a similar sitch.

[melissag]

3, if you are feeling like you're not getting what you want, definitely make a change!

It may take some time, but I think you can make some calls and just be straightforward with the Ts you call. Let them know what you are looking for, and find out who can meet your needs in that regard.

At the very beginning of my sitch, I felt desperate that I needed someone to help me. So I went to see a C. She spent the majority of the time looking at me with a sad look on her face (like, "oh, you poor thing") and told me that I just needed to feel these feelings, and yes, it s.u.c.k.s. She also kept telling me that I needed to see a lawyer, and that I should watch out for my H.

Well, I saw her for a few weeks, and literally felt the whole time like I wanted to drive my car off a cliff. I would just go sit in her dark little office for an hour and use up a box of kleenexes while she looked at me sympathetically and told me that was what I was supposed to be doing, and then I'd pay her $140.

Well . . . that might be good for someone else, but for me - I honestly think it may have made me feel worse.

Maybe your C was what you needed at one point, but not anymore. It's OK to make a change!

(BTW, I am with you - the people on this board have helped me FAR more than my C. There is something really special in connecting with people who have walked in your shoes.)