Responding Vs Reacting

[Faith2b]

I have been doing alot of soul searching. I have been really trying to measure my heart at any given time. I am learning to be in tune more with my feelings. I am still having trouble that is with my ego getting in the way causing me to mis communicate my actual feelings. Feelings like being hurt pain anger I mask. I mask these with my ego. Moving forward Im have been writing more in my journal so that I can let go of my emotions especially when I feel they are sticking on me. I guess the hardest part is healing because I want everything to be better over night. Its hard to stay present when I find myself masking my negative feelings to please everyone. I dont want anyone to be upset so I fake that Im ok. This is my downfall maybe.

Well things are getting clearer. How is GAL going for others?

[Sotto]

Hi Faith, sounds like you are doing pretty well overall. How did you get on in court my friend? GALing is going pretty well for me - although there's always room for a little more GAL too. At the moment, I'm trying to get at least one new thing going each month, and over time that really builds up. I have 7 or 8 new things that I now do on a regular basis.

What GAL activities are you involved in now??

[Faith2b]

Have not been on the forum for some time. Ex did not show up to court he told me he would not. I have had to put my foot down alot. Overall I am doing very well. I have still been getting adjusted to my new living space I really enjoy decorating and making my lil space a home. The apartment I live in will have a gym towards the end of the month. I have plans to keep busy with the kids. I will be going to church on Saturday night. I plan to get my kids situated for the weekend with their dad. I constantly remind myself what do I need at this moment especially when I become anxious overwhelmed. I have really leaned on the Lord. My ex's mom has been very supportive. I appreciate how she has stood in my corner. She told me to keep standing firm. I think alot less about him. I actually miss his calls when he calls. Less communication has been betyer. Well I hope everyone sitch is going well.

GAL ON!!

[Sotto]

Yay Faith - sounds like you're doing great my friend!!

[Faith2b]

Gal is a great consCept. You have to realize that your situation cannot be bigger than your higher power. You have to trust and allow yourself to receive this life. If you sitch is to big you become a prisoner. That not ok. You have to put yourself in the center reevaluate how you can become a better person. If their are things u don't like u only have the power to change them. Love should not be touched by your sitch if it has u must heal and commit to a better state of mind body and soul. This is the point in wich u reevaluate why u want your relationship and what steps are good for you. Until the other person comes around you have ro plant firm on who u are and what u need in the relationship. Now set back and relax receive from plenty not from a place of scarcity.

[Faith2b]

Gal is a great consCept. You have to realize that your situation cannot be bigger than your higher power. You have to trust and allow yourself to receive this life. If you sitch is to big you become a prisoner. That not ok. You have to put yourself in the center reevaluate how you can become a better person. If their are things u don't like u only have the power to change them. Love should not be touched by your sitch if it has u must heal and commit to a better state of mind body and soul. This is the point in wich u reevaluate why u want your relationship and what steps are good for you. Until the other person comes around you have ro plant firm on who u are and what u need in the relationship. Now set back and relax receive from plenty not from a place of scarcity.

[Faith2b]

Its very cold here in Ohio. I woke up to a sheet of ice all over my car. I spoke with xh yesterday he is really trying to focus on the kids. I am very happy about this. The babysitter said he was very excited to see my little daughter. He kept on saying how he missed her. He called me about bus and after school care for our older daughter. Since he is trying I have to let the reigns go and let him show me he can step up as a dad. being honest its hard not to step in and try and help. This are my kiddos. Well I am going to see how this all plays out. Lets see if he realizes how much I have had on me as mom. Maybe he will have more respect for me. I want him to have a strong relationship with our kids. I want us to be great co parents. yes I do want my family together but its coming down to the basics for us and thats hopeful.

My girlfriend said he called the ow a partner instead of gf. He already told me the relationship was in grave trouble last week. Im hoping that ends and it can be much simplier with me him and the kids. Im looking forward to focusing on our children. My daughter has a birthday this month cant wait!!


I hope everyone is finding something to do on Valentine's day.

GAL On !!

[Faith2b]

I have been very busy. Its been a cold month but I feel that I have really had some great progress when it comes to GAL. I feel they have been really deep rooted tearing out, grieving and replacing them with a better outcome. I have been met with more resistance but I feel confident more in the consequences I have to decided to take. I have officialy cut my ex off. Its hard but necessary. I feel up into now him and the ow were playing me and that now has been a certain reality. Its not easy and I have come to terms with the pain of it because the progress is well worth it. I have read several books from Townsend. I have done much internal work on how I myself have been empty, needy and prone to relationships that have not measured up. Im in a better place right wrong indifferent I am who I am. I have realized that hiding behind relationships and not facing reality have sabatoged much of my own time to having the best relationship I can. im not mad at my ex I feel free. I feel despite us not talking at last I have made the choice to be done. This has proven easier for me than waiting for him. I mean he told me why cant I wait for him. Wow how that was taken by me I think I could have hurt the man for this but hey I have allowed him to control me for a long time. I realize now what Im dealing with and staying away so that I can handle things in a more mature way is in everyones best interest. As of now Im being lead by God's blind faith.

Have a great day!!

[Sotto]

Hi Faith

Sounds like you're doing really well, and I'm so glad to hear it. Looks as though you are measuring yourself by your own standards and not needing to be in a R to feel self worth. Good for you!

Much better than waiting, watching and looking over your shoulder to see what your ex is doing.

[Faith2b]

Thanks Toots!