Ganb8te 5 - Escaping the abyss

[gan]

Thanks all - will reply a bit later when I have a proper keyboard. Its Option A for now...

Toots - I just posted on your thread. I do hope you get some input from a vet (e.g. Wonka) as it seems like a bit of a critical point for you. Not sure if the vets are ever over in the infidelity forum, so sending out a bit of a plea here.

Mozza - maybe you can put out a call to Wonka on your thread? I know she is on there a bit.

[Sotto]

Thanks so much Gan. I've had some helpful advice so far - and some vet wisdom would be great.

Weird after so much down time in my sitch that things are moving now. It's like DBing is a revision period and the exam has arrived and I need to not forget everything I've learned.

[Zelda09]

Gan, aside from the $ question of what/how to do -

The things you and your H cited for reasons to S -

What do you believe has changed in you/the dynamics you'd create that would give him reasons to hope or give your M a try, to R? Not a sarcastic question, promise! But I would love to see a list

What about the things you'd want now from him?

Outside perspective - 8 months is a lot of time. I get the general feel that not much will change here at this point and you will have to be a catalyst for change in your sitch when you are ready for it.

[Vanilla]

Gan

Change happens in a moment, big life decisions, crossroads arrive, paths are taken. Insights happen, views change.

Light bulbs go on.

Suddenly we 'know' and can never 'unknow'. Insights come in their own good time.

So it is with WAS. If WAS was desirous of contact then he would.

Just relax on this, casual, no expectations.

Whatever you do or think, Our other halves will do or think something else.

V

[Vanilla]

Are things OK?

V

[gan]

Thanks for checking in, V. Yes, things are ok. Busy on the work front. Been thinking about Zelda's question just haven't found the time to get it out yet.

Currently googling for news regarding H's interests with a view to sending a short message (maybe). Inspired by Toots' text to her H. Unfortunately there is no exhibition involving a shark wearing a fez at the opera house

[Vanilla]

There is one here, except it's a top hat and cane. I am not kidding either its a logo for a fish and chip shop next to the disco.

Suggest a t shirt.

V

[Sotto]

Hi Gan, I think that might be an idea. Dip a toe in the water. Is there anything your H always wanted to do, or a hobby he wanted to take up? Or maybe something related to his profession or industry? I'm not sure if you work in a similar field, but if you do maybe something organised by a professional body...Or maybe just a joke that you saw that he may like?

You know him best Gan, and what he might enjoy. I think the main thing is to keep it light and just say you saw it and thought he might be interested - not actually suggest going to it or anything - just sharing the info.

Let us know if you decide to do it - and good luck if you do.

[Barrybran]

Unfortunately there is no exhibition involving a shark wearing a fez at the opera house

Check the aquarium

[Zelda09]

Been thinking of you lots lately, Ganb8te. Hope you are well!