Flight's Thread #2

[CWOL]

Yes, I've been nice for about the first three months then I discovered she was secretly plotting a D while I was executing the recommended plan. Then I found this site and started to detach from her. However, I have not found that it made much difference for her as well. I have been acting happy and "as if" when I'm with her, she was a little curious but she didn't pursue things. I have not completely shut her down because our activities with our son are so intertwined it would be very painful to stop cold-turkey.

[Flight]

Well, we are proceeding to her moving out. She is obviously serious since she insists on buying and not renting. When she goes, I am moving on.

[RAI]

Courage to you my friend. I have seen many on this board who suddenly feel a great weight lifted once a separation has occured. I wish this for you. I wish this for me too, but it does not seem to be in my immediate future.

Let her go. Drop the rope and focus on you.

RAI

[Flight]

Still having a difficult time. My emotions depend to much on how she has treated me that day. She seems excited almost to move out now, she sees "new beginnings" despite also wondering and being afraid. She just goes blindly down a path because she decided to. I still don't get how to not talk with her when building a connection seems to work.

[SMXL5]

Hi Flight,
I have been watching your thread proceed just like mine did. I finally filed in July of 2015. I signed up for an online dating service in January and have dated about 20 of the most incredible women I’d ever expect to meet. I believed I was a P.O.S that my ex led me to believe and thought I’d be alone forever. None of these women have worked out so far but to hold these women in my arms and kiss them goodnight has been a lot of fun. When the old dog dies get a new puppy and you’ll wonder what took you so long.
Steve

[Flight]

I left for a while to rebuild my life. I didn't need the daily forum check-ins and even finally started dating. And then it happened...

I got the reconciliation request email! Almost 2 years to the day after D-Day, and over 6 months after she moved out. At first, I was cautious, but I agreed to talk. We laid out the ground rules and then started to "date". We went slow and we talked a lot, we got to know each other again. I hardly needed to give her my list, she had already been going online and gave me all the things she read a BS needed to have from a WS. And so we are into this for 2 months now. I am still cautious, but so much has changed. It is better now than it was that last year before the affair.

[pinn]

Flight!!! So happy to hear an update. I think of you as one of the ones who really helped me out. Glad to hear things are moving. I too stepped way back from the forum. Our paths seem somewhat similar. If interested check out my thread sometime. Anyway, just really glad for the update. Hope things continue going well!!

[Flight]

I checked out for a while. Got to a good place, started dating. Met one nice girl in particular, though it turned out not to be the next "forever" relationship. And then, almost exactly 2 years to the day, and 6 months after her moving out after the hell of an in-house separation, I got the email. She asked if I would consider reconciling. It was sweet, heart-felt, and she knew I didn't have to even respond. She expressed regret and a deep apology. I decided to talk to her. That led to dating, setting rules and boundaries, and then... well, it's be pretty unbelievable. Anything can happen

[OrangeK]

Is this still active? I have some questions as i am a LBH with a recent WAW.