Thx nutts. I think I may repost there. I am definitely not getting much over there.
Stay strong bro!
34, xw33 M-10, T-18 2D (8 and 5) Ilybinilwy-1/16 EA/PA- 7/15-present (with my former best friend) Trial apartment-2/16 (also when she considers us separated) W moved out-8/16 W Filed 11/21/16 D final 1/30/17
Sorry you are hear. I just caught your thread. Stay strong for your kids. My XW put OM first and as a result my kids have no contact with her at all. She has made 2 attempts this year to connect.. or should i say give an ultimatum to them. Take it or leave it. It's scary to think she was once a loving mother and wife.
As for you sitch. MLC. WW, married too young and lack of life experience.. it all adds up to you getting on with your life. Loving those kids and being their rock. Nothing else matters. What people and family think means nothing right now. The truth about it all will eventually come out.
OM is in the picture. it makes it harder for her to see past that exciting adventure.
take care
M51 XW43 (38 at bd) BD1 MAY 30 2015 BD2 JUNE 25 2015 by text moved out Aug 2 2015 left both Daughters 13 and 15 (now 18-20) Her divorce Final July 26 2016 Last time she saw her kids Aug 2 2015
Just as an FYI, I just went through this process from Jan-Aug of this year and I would very much recommend against going the collaborative route. It will cost you guys more money in the end, but I can't tell you the amount of pain and awfulness that my xW and I went through to get the particulars to work.
It will be EXTREMELY hard to detach and work on yourself if you have to consistently be in contact w/ your W. If you think she's said some bad things so far to you, just wait until you start disagreeing about assets and liabilities...and if you're anything like me, you'll push her to do her side of the work and just end up pushing her even further away.
ME-37 W-34 T-8 M-4 ILYBNILWY BD: 8-31-2015 EA suspected - 11/1/15 PA confirmed - 1/22/16 W files for D - 2/4/16 D - 8/9/16
