Thanks. I have - to an extent. I felt stupid about it later and beat myself up over it. I should have known better.
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
Well, it didn't take too long for the ex to revert back to crazy town again last night. Oh well. Keep moving forward.
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
I have spoken to my lawyer on this and he said that I would have to prove her unfit, which is very hard to do. Since she "passed" the military's psych evals, I may not be able to. He said that unfortunately, due to the laws, that there isn't anything I can do until she commits the act.
Jeep,
I know my XW truly loves our sons and I don't think she'd knowingly allow them to get in harm's way. Unfortunately, because of her dissociation, she has the potential to "zone out" and that happens when she perceives herself to be in a dangerous situation. Zoning out was a conditioned response as an escape from her childhood abuse.
I talked to my lawyer and mediator about the OM, and they more-or-less said the same thing that your lawyer said; they couldn't do anything unless there was a criminal history. I kept pressing the issue and that's when they decided that the "special" clause could be included in the mediation agreement.
According to my lawyer, all the boys have to do is say that they want to stay with me and that's all that has to be done in the short term. In other words, if my wife calls the cops because my sons are with me, of their own volition, then everything is good, they can stay with me. I keep a copy of the mediation agreement in my car and another copy in my house. That one paragraph in the agreement is a wonderful thing.
That one paragraph in the agreement is a wonderful thing.
Agreed. And the part I had put in mine about no one with a history, any form of child abuse/neglect, etc. did not make the ex happy one bit, but she signed anyway.
P.S. Doodler, don't stop joking man. It makes this hell a little better.
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
Well, it didn't take too long for the ex to revert back to crazy town again last night. Oh well. Keep moving forward.
It seems easier to detach when she's visiting crazy town, doesn't it? You can still love her, but you don't have to take up residence in that town with her.
Man there are a lot of broken people in this world. I don't know the official stat but kids are something like 30 more times likely to be abused by a non-biological male living in the home - i. e. A boyfriend.
One thing I am greatfull for is my ex W and I have no children together!
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It seems easier to detach when she's visiting crazy town, doesn't it? You can still love her, but you don't have to take up residence in that town with her.
It most definitely does. I have my own crazy town and definitely want no part of hers.
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
Man there are a lot of broken people in this world. I don't know the official stat but kids are something like 30 more times likely to be abused by a non-biological male living in the home - i. e. A boyfriend.
One thing I am greatfull for is my ex W and I have no children together!
There are a lot more than you think, I do believe.
I have no doubt on the statistics. My ex and her sister were abused by the many different "boyfriends" of their mom. The mom takes the meaning crazy to a whole new level, and I'm afraid the apple doesn't fall far from the tree as she is starting to exhibit some of the traits...
There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
