So Confused 3

[bsb]

Starting a new thread.

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2730575&page=11

[bsb]

Checking in. Been a few weeks. I never agreed to meet spouse since she wouldn't give me a reason. Last week she kept asking the same questions above. I finally told her that I did miss her at times and do think of her. I thought about trying to meet. Now she says my time has expired..... She wouldn't talk for months and it took me several weeks to gain the courage to talk and now she pulls back.

Hope others read this and learn. I'm doing ok, maybe disappointed. My lawyer is drawing up a settlement now. I expect it to be rejected even though it is more than fair for her.

[hawker]

Hey bsb,

Glad you are back...sounds like she wanted to get a reaction from you to see if you are still available to her. I think the time expired is BS...keep staying dark and working on yourself. Glad to see you got yourself a lawyer so that you protect yourself.

[Vapo]

Bsb,

she was just bullshitting you. You did NOTHING wrong. She is just justifying her actions. Do not believe anything she says... Such utter horse puckeyes...

[bsb]

Yes, it seems that way!! She has complete cutoff communication and went back to emailing with her attorney.

I guess I shouldn't be surprised at this point!!! I thought we were past the anger/hate but here we are. Round.... I can't keep track anymore

[Vapo]

This is why you focus on yourself and let her go to do things she thinks she needs doing. Just focus on yourself and your growth.

[cheesyt]

I second what Hawker said, she wanted to know if you were still available to her.

you seem to be doing great bsb. keep at it

[bsb]

I have a lot more good days than bad. I sometimes start second guessing myself and start wondering what would have happened if I would have agreed to meet with her. I still miss her even though I'm moving on. Just so much confusion on why this happened. I don't think she will accept my settlement but we see

It's been over 5 months since she moved out. I haven't seen her in almost 4. Hard to believe it's been that long!

[bsb]

My attorney formally sent over my settlement offer today. It's more than fair but we both think she won't accept. Last week she cleaned one of the joint savings accounts. Direct violation of the court order in HER divorce summons. No contact from her anymore either. Guess I missed my chance..... I really believe the last month was to mess with my head and she never really wanted to work on the married like she stated.

The ride continues.....

[hawker]

Hey bsb...

Sounds par for the course with alot of sitch's here....don't beat yourself up about missing your chance, if she really wanted to work on it she would...she was being the typical WW....

Don't let the ride continue...get off and keep working and living for you!! The waves of good and bad will continue but like you have experienced they will get shorter in time. ;-)

I remember the days when I couldn't even work because I could not concentrate on anything besides my W...ugh..painful painful days...I wouldn't wish on anyone. But I truly can say I am stronger and I am trying to focus on the positive things in my life.

You will be ok BSB...with or without her, keep busy and do things that you enjoy!