Hard to believe. But 12/23/2017 was the day my wife told me she wanted a divorce. Here we are 7 years later, still married. And the last 6 years have been the best 6 years of our marriage!
I decided to come back and post today. 12/23 will forever be etched into my brain. The anxiety, fear, and staring into the unknown it caused will never be forgotten. I don't know if my threads are still here or not, but going back and reading them would do any newcomer a lot of good.
First, I got a ton of great advice. Invaluable advice. From some of the best vets that ever graced this forum.
Second, you can see the stages I went through, the DBing I engaged in, and what worked in my situation. Yes they all are different but there are learnings in all of them.
Third, you can see that DBiing can work. We see a lot of divorces happen in this forum, but there are a few success stories too. Mine is one of them.
A lot has happened in these 7 years. Including our best friends getting a divorce. (He cheated, she divorced him, it's a very sad story.) Life happens and 7 years is a very long time. We also hit 25 years of marriage this year, and we took an anniversary trip to Hawaii.
For those that remember me, hi to you all. For those that don't, I'm going to try to commit back to the forum in 2025 to help some of you going through all of this yourself.
As we used to say around here, onward and upward!
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
I am now 374 days since my divorce was finalized. Things are going pretty well, and I'm leaving for a cruise in two days with 2 couples and my new girlfriend. Scary, but exciting!
Married: 15yrs Ages: Me 49, W 44 Kids: S12 BD: around 4/14
