Hi everybody, My last thread locked, after only 8 pages! I just realized it now. Here is the link to my old thread. Trueloves old thread Detatching AGAIN - slowly giving up hope
I am copying ImLIN's post from the locked thread here so that I can answer it.
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Sounds like you have a handle on things...regarding discussion of R....if you can't do it without crying...then hold off for another time...your not in limbo...remember you are discovering the new you!...so time is your friend...not your enemy...
I know I could never talk to H about R without crying...no matter how strong I thought I was I couldn't make it through...so I blew it many times I am sure...but in the end when I finally relaxed things fell into place and here we are...it has been over a year with him piecing back with me...wow...how time flies...I can't say it has been easy...he is physically not well...also is dealing with depression...and really needs to get a job as I am tiring of caring the load for the family...
I must confess he has made some wonderful changes...like doing dishes, cleaning house, doing laundry, helping S with school work and washing my car!!!...he never did "woman's work" before no matter how much I needed the help...the best I could count on was for him to get the kids to do it...now he actually is doing the most...but then he should since we all work and he is at home...but before that would not have mattered...so I am glad for this HUGE 180 in him on this matter...
other then that...we are still working on things...needing counseling...but missed the sign up for the couples class...so maybe the next one he will get us in to it...
