It is difficult to say with little or no 'feedback' from your h. That I believe is very selfish behavior. Either way, you have to proceed with the reality of things right now. Mine married the ow, therefore, he is out of my life forever and always as far as I'm concerned. I think he attempted contact today. I got a hang up phone call from a number in the town where his business is located 2 hours away.
I had to decide what the reality was for me and operate from that point. Without considering what he may or may not do. I don't want to deal with his hurt or confusion. He didn't want to deal with mine or my teens then...if he finds that he made a mistake...he'll have to deal with that w/o my help as well. He is a big boy who needs to find his own way.
I truly don't know about your h. I know that I don't want to ever hear from mine again. This is based on our entire relationship, not just his marriage to ow. He is not friendship material. You may need to decide about your h by looking within yourself.
yeah scouby...they step from pan to fire....my H said I blew thru all his money " i have no money you spent it all" "it was always about the money for you" NO it wasnt.....ahh OW works, but....he has blown $150K on her in a yr! She pays for nothing, he makes sure she has everything.....so???? She is a gold digger.
Me 53 H 51 OW 25 Bomb may 06 left june 8/ 06 ILYBNILWY (twice!) 7/6/07 H wants to come home 7/21/07 H comes home 7/07 -7/08 long haul letting go of OW now piecing in earnest
It sounds like a wonderful place. Yes, I understand the peace is well worth the loss sometimes. The only thing missing here is financial security....and hopefully, that will change.
Normal family conflict is healthy. My 2 get along great...they tend to hit ME as a team and I do the yelling around here. LOL. Teenagers are difficult to stay one step ahead of.
I'm glad that you have your peace back...you will be fine.
Mickey, there is NOTHING that can take the place of inner peace, not money, not people, nothing! There is always conflict among people, its unaviodable, nobody agrees all the time, so if you don't have a measure of conflict, I would be worried! LOL In saying that, everyone needs to understand the difference between conflict and down right fighting and meaness.
Same here Scouby...except my 'ex' grew up with an extremely abusive father and a mother who just smiles. Nice woman...but not very strong.
When he was angry with me he would sneak around and move his things out of the house, or run to my friends and tell them something I had said that they could take in a negative light if he worded it correctly. Or if there was an argument he would spin my words around like a fool. Sad fellow but I don't have to deal with that anymore. He was very childlike. There is nothing worse than dealing with a child in a man's body.
