Nomo, I know. I don't know why it is so hard for me. I have always been the "I want it yesterday" girl. I'd rather walk on coals! If I want a chance I have to do it. I am determined too. Thank you
M15 T19 D13 S13 BD Affair 9/13 S 11/13 D started 6/14.. dropped court date 10/14 H attorney can't get it together. Still with long distance ow. Still hates me.
OMG, why does my H think that I care that H OW was at the bar picking up on some guy, while H had the kids. H wanted me to ask a friend of ours about it. I said no! OW is H problem not mine. I said H wouldn't believe me anyway. He believed her when I said she was telling everyone what he was saying about me. Said I was making it up even though what I said was what H had told her. Whatever. NOT MY PROBLEM!!!
M15 T19 D13 S13 BD Affair 9/13 S 11/13 D started 6/14.. dropped court date 10/14 H attorney can't get it together. Still with long distance ow. Still hates me.
Wow, well here is a true test for you. Get emotions back in check, focus on your plan, put it behind you because you can't control it. Back to work, but that was a doozy. He may be pushing your buttons intentionally to check your new "niceness" to see if it will last. WASs think (1) they know the LBS and (2) the LBS will never change. Prove him wrong on both, over time, by your actions and that will be something!
M 39 W 39 M'd 10 yrs; T 14 yrs S7 D4 Bomb 5-8-05 W not working on M 1-22-07; EA 2-22 DB 4-10 S 6-11 No more C Link
I was so GOOD. I said I was sorry I know he has feeling s for her and if she is what makes you happy that is what I want, ha ha! This isn't here first time. I shouldn't have told him that though. She want up to Oregon to her grandparents and pick up some guy there. She told my girlfriend. I hate living in a small town :}. Anyway I said I didn't want to hurt him I was his friend and thought he should know. H called me back since the last post so I told him. H tries to play it off that they just spend time toghther and not his girlfriend now. Before it was and he told her HE loved her. Not know since they split up and are now whatever! Not sure what he thinks about me now!! I just tried to be his friend with no emotion. It was kind of fun. H had tone of desperation in his voice and wanted to know what I new. Didn't give him any details said I didn't want to get involved and if he wanted to be with her he would have to figure it out for himself...
M15 T19 D13 S13 BD Affair 9/13 S 11/13 D started 6/14.. dropped court date 10/14 H attorney can't get it together. Still with long distance ow. Still hates me.
Oh, lots of drama. The Sh*t hit the fan with H & OW. He found out that she was cheating on him. I had told him that before but he thought that I was just saying it because I was jealous. H came over two days ago and just sat in a the chair and looked all sad. I said what is the matter , H said you won't care. I said yes I do tell me. Then H told me what happened and apologized for what he had done to me. Why, why I felt bad for him I don't know..Anyway, as he does all the time, like I'm going to forget. H tells me you want to work things out I don't I'm done never again. I don't know why H has to tell me that all the time?? I am really torn as to what I should do know. He thinks I am seeing some one and is happy for me. It's what he wants so I'll leave him alone. I don't know if I should back off and let him be alone for a while. Very little contact. Or be a friend and be there for him. H is so hard to read. One minute its just talk aout the kids then we chit cha about stuff and he says its too much. Now that he is alone I feel like letting him be that way and find out how lonly it can be. H has never been alone. This is really hard. S
M15 T19 D13 S13 BD Affair 9/13 S 11/13 D started 6/14.. dropped court date 10/14 H attorney can't get it together. Still with long distance ow. Still hates me.
We spent the day unexpectidly together with the kids at the pool. H came with us. H gave be a big hug and said he was so sorry for everythhing he has done and how bad he feels for hurting me.We had a really nice time. He is coming over for dinner tonite. Well see how it goes. Not trying to read too much into it. Just being nice and CALM. Calm and patience are not somthing that comes easy to me. I determined to try though. H feeling bad is something I have wanted for so long and now that it's happening I feel strange and don't know what to do with it. I know I just have to be careful of what I do and say and take it slow. I'd better get a new roll of duct tape. Wish me luck cuz I'm gonna need it.
M15 T19 D13 S13 BD Affair 9/13 S 11/13 D started 6/14.. dropped court date 10/14 H attorney can't get it together. Still with long distance ow. Still hates me.
I have not read all your thread. Is this the first time he has shown any remorse? If so do you think it's b/c Ow cheated on him? R they officially over?
Yes, it was the first time he has shown remorse. It is I'm am sure it is becasue OW cheated on him. H said he knows how I feel now. Yes, the are officially over. H not saying anything about us but I'm not going there. Just going to see where this goes. I know that was a big step today for him to hug me and say that. H told me the other day when H found OW cheated that he was sorry he has been so bad to me also. H also told me that he really didn't love OW I don't think he thinks that he was just using her to pass the time but its sound like it to me. We kind of touched on it when he said it was no big deal that they broke up and I said I thought you loved her. H said no I don't think I really loved OW. But got carried away and it was fun?? (Fun- my opinion). We have had sex on and off the whole time he has been gone. I aslo asked why he was doing it with both OW & me and he said he was confused abou us??? At this point I am not saying anything about our future since he, even this am when I talked to him, he says we will never be together again. Then the hug when we were together today?? S
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M15 T19 D13 S13 BD Affair 9/13 S 11/13 D started 6/14.. dropped court date 10/14 H attorney can't get it together. Still with long distance ow. Still hates me.
