I haven't really put a time table on it, it'll take as long as it takes. I called to tell her and the kids goodnight, and it was like talking to a different person. She was very nice and told me "goodnight, I'll see you in the morning". I guess I'm going to tell her that I'm going to take the kids and go to the reunion, I'm kind of nervous about it but I think it might be for the best.
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Well, I think I'm making progress, but I'm not sure. I'm Dbing my butt off and she seems to be noticing because she's made some comments like " your so calm, cool, and collected" but in an accusatory way, and then she'll say something like "why can't you just let me go?". I'm not begging, crying, or pleading and I keep up a PMA around her. She starts IC on Monday and I'm optimistic that it will help her and hopefully us.
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Yes, we still live in the same house, and she tells me that there is no one else and that she just wants to be alone. She says she is depressed.
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That is sort of how I felt. I wanted him to leave. I wanted to be alone because I didn't want to hurt him but I also wanted to wallow. So cloudy and dark to see what the truth really is.
During the first year we were married, I had to move to Florida because of my job, she stayed behind to finish nursing school, well, one thing led to another and she had a PA and I found out about it, we tried to go to MC, but had to stop because we just couldn't afford to keep going. I had no one to talk to about it and the anger just kept festering, I loved her but I hated her too, hence the verbal abuse I heaped on her. After I went to IC, and then MC seven years later I was able to forgive her and let go of the anger. I feel that this is the way she ios feeling right now, she says she just can't get over how I treated her.
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