I understand what you're saying Nomopo, it just seems so similiar to an EA, I mean thses women work together 8 hours a day and yet they talk on the cell phone 4-5 times a day, she has been a constant in our life since last December.
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Just got off of the phone with my kids, telling them goodnight. They are staying at my in-laws tonight because my wife is on call and she told them she had to be back at work at 8pm, more that likely she is going out with her friend Christine because she's been over at her mom and dads before and had her Christine call her cell phone and act like it was work calling and she went out and partied. I can't let myself worry about it, and I won't, as afar as I know she MAY very well really have to work. Anyway, my brother lives here in town and he goes out all of the time and he'll tell me if she was out or not. But I guess I should n't care.
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Do ICs' ever ask the spouse of the person they are counciling to come on for an appointment?
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Yes! Mine did! And W liked her. So that, coupled with my suggestion that we needed to at a minimum work on our communication and try to get along so we could be the best co-parents for the kids, led to our current JC. Of course, my W makes it clear it is NOT couples counseling.
Nomopo
PS-is your IC pro-M, goal oriented and solutions based?
M 39 W 39 M'd 10 yrs; T 14 yrs S7 D4 Bomb 5-8-05 W not working on M 1-22-07; EA 2-22 DB 4-10 S 6-11 No more C Link
No, I live in Victoria, population 60,000 or so, not to many nightspots here, I'm finding that I really don't care if she goes out, I hope she has a good time, and she's careful driving home.
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PS-is your IC pro-M, goal oriented and solutions based?
I'm not currently seeing, I'm going to call on Friday. I'm not sure about my wifes IC, she sees her for the first time on monday.
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Lol, no I wqish, because then it would be easy for ME to go out and not run into her friend, which I did the night after she dropped the bomb. My brother and I were at a local night club and in walks Christine, she sees me and comes up to me and asks me how I'm doing, to which I replied, You know how I'm doing, and then she proceeds to ask me where we had been and if I had seen her ex BF or her ex H, and I said no. I wasn't rude to her, but I wasn't real talkative either.
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Nomopo, I realize that I haven't posted on your thread, but I don't think any advice I could give you wouldn't be something you don't already know, I have read it though.
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