Sometimes, when we post to others it helps us for ourselves. We post the advice given to us and somehow we read it different because it is in our own words.
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Please post away. I do not see or act as clearly in my own sitch as I do others. And Trip is right, posting on other threads helps the poster learn. If say my 1100 posts has helped these DB lessons sink in as much or more than anything else.
M 39 W 39 M'd 10 yrs; T 14 yrs S7 D4 Bomb 5-8-05 W not working on M 1-22-07; EA 2-22 DB 4-10 S 6-11 No more C Link
I have a plan for this weekend, I'm not going to go to the family reunion is Houston after all. My wife has a "Southern Living" party that she was invited to, and I'm going to let her know that I'll keep the kids so her parents don't have to and I'm going to take them to see Ratatouie, THEN Saturday night I'M going out with my brother and she can stay home with the kids for a change. Of course I'm not going to tell her that last part. The last time I went out after the D bomb, she had her friend check up on me, and she drove by my brothers shop really slow to see if I was there. Let her worry for a change. By the way, going out is out of the norm for me, so it's kind of part of GAL and Dbing.
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How dio I find out if my wifes therapist is pro-marriage, solution based, and goal oriented?
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Good plan for the weekend. I'l be seeing the rat movie with my kids too.
On the counselor, I was more worried about you seeing a Pro-M, goal oriented, solutions based counselor or you two seeing one together. As for her's, it would be good to know but you can't do anything about it or really get upset if s/he is not. In Victoria, if you call could they figure out who you are? Maybe a friend or your B could call. Also, see if they have a website. Finally, if her IC wants to meet with you (is that possible?), you could use that opportunity to ask some questions about his/her practice, experience but follow Michele's guidance in DR (pp. 131-33, I think).
M 39 W 39 M'd 10 yrs; T 14 yrs S7 D4 Bomb 5-8-05 W not working on M 1-22-07; EA 2-22 DB 4-10 S 6-11 No more C Link
I had thought about calling as you suggested, and I may just do that. I know there is one here in town and I'm going to call her for myslef, her ad in the yellow pages says she's "solution-oriented.
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I have a question. When my wife says that we have never gotten along and we don't talk, should I respond with " You're right, we don't get along, and it's my fault and I'm sorry for that", and then just leave it at that?
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