Sounds good, swashy. Glad you're working so hard to keep the lines of communication open for your kids. They are lucky to have a Dad like you. Hope you had a great ride!
Me: 37 M: 14 yrs Separated 10/06; Filed for D 12/07 Life is good.
J - Ride was great, thanks. Not that long but pretty hard. Good stuff. I'm pretty cooked between the hay, moving and riding.
HS - very kind of you to say. Certainly haven't felt like much of a good dad...especially through my "angry years". Been a lot better since the bomb. Really learning to appreciate them. But I have to say...something I noticed today actually. Now that I'm letting go of all of this and accepting it...I feel so much more patient around them. I think that most of the time when I lost my patience with them before...it would be because I was stressed about my sitch, etc. I am just so much more at peace right now....calm....feels really, really good.
And I have to say, the interactions with the W were better this weekend too. She said last weekend that she didn't think she could be comfortable with me until this was all over..but she seemed more comfortable this weekend. So that's a good thing. I really think it's important for the kids too. They sense it I think and they have been great this weekend. D6 has had a few episodes of sadness but they are listening and behaving really well.
Life is good! Gotta make plans for the 3rd and 4th. She has the kids for the night of the 3rd. Really want to do something. Then she is taking them for the 4th, it's her dad's birthday...but I'll have them that night. So S2H will be on the loose for a while.
Sorry...one more thing. I think I've made the decision that this will be my last thread in Newcommer's. I'll be moving over to Surviving. Only seems appropriate at this point. I actually posted a thread there last week about the mediation. I'll certainly still come around and hang out of course. It seems like most of my original crew have moved on from newcommer's too. Guess I really do hate change.
Thank you to everyone who has seen me through this part of my life. I have a new and exciting future ahead of me and I can't wait to continue to share those details with all of you in Surviving so please come find me!
MWHGC was the first to respond to me...thank you! Had you not, who knows where I'd be right now. Ian and Tyson - you guys have become more than just suport for me...you have become my brothers. So glad that I now have you guys in my life. Rob, Jen, SD - you all have been my inspiration and I'm so proud to know you. Shoe - my sleeping pill...you have gotten me through some rough nites..thank you! HS & Kev - Nobody makes me laugh harder than you guys - YOUR FING THING ROCKS! Dana, F21, Jules, Care, Rainbow, Kristy, Trip, TGH, Neli, Nikki - My sweet, sweet girls...what can I say...you all shine so very, very bright and inspire me want to be a better man. SOTS - you are so unique you get your own section...you have made me look at myself like nobody else. I can't tell you how much I appreciate your wisdom, insight and advice. Then I've got Fender, Krylos, NDDT, FA, Ben, and anyone else form the GSOIA Group, you're all my peeps. Thanks for having my back. There have also been a bunch of newer folks popping on. I'm so sorry that you all find youreselves here and I appreciate that you come to my thread because I know it may not be what you want to see in many ways....but realize that what you see before you is a man who has won his life back.
Now...I hope to GOD that I didn't miss anyone. I actually wasn't going to mention names when I started this...just for that reason...so if I did...I am so very, very sorry.
Sorry...one more thing. I think I've made the decision that this will be my last thread in Newcommer's. I'll be moving over to Surviving. Only seems appropriate at this point. I actually posted a thread there last week about the mediation. I'll certainly still come around and hang out of course. It seems like most of my original crew have moved on from newcommer's too. Guess I really do hate change.
Thank you to everyone who has seen me through this part of my life. I have a new and exciting future ahead of me and I can't wait to continue to share those details with all of you in Surviving so please come find me!
MWHGC was the first to respond to me...thank you! Had you not, who knows where I'd be right now. Ian and Tyson - you guys have become more than just suport for me...you have become my brothers. So glad that I now have you guys in my life. Rob, Jen, SD - you all have been my inspiration and I'm so proud to know you. Shoe - my sleeping pill...you have gotten me through some rough nites..thank you! HS & Kev - Nobody makes me laugh harder than you guys - YOUR FING THING ROCKS! Dana, F21, Jules, Care, Rainbow, Kristy, Trip, TGH, Neli, Nikki - My sweet, sweet girls...what can I say...you all shine so very, very bright and inspire me want to be a better man. SOTS - you are so unique you get your own section...you have made me look at myself like nobody else. I can't tell you how much I appreciate your wisdom, insight and advice. Then I've got Fender, Krylos, NDDT, FA, Ben, and anyone else form the GSOIA Group, you're all my peeps. Thanks for having my back. There have also been a bunch of newer folks popping on. I'm so sorry that you all find youreselves here and I appreciate that you come to my thread because I know it may not be what you want to see in many ways....but realize that what you see before you is a man who has won his life back.
Now...I hope to GOD that I didn't miss anyone. I actually wasn't going to mention names when I started this...just for that reason...so if I did...I am so very, very sorry.
THANK YOU ALL!
Why is it that I feel like I just watched an oscars acceptance speech?????
Why is it that I feel like I just watched an oscars acceptance speech?????
ROFLMAO! Glad to have you back buddy!
SO...kids started camp today. W was at the hospital last night. She has beed doing laundry at her house for us. I could not for the life of me find D6 and S5s bathing suits. Ripped the house apart looking...nothing. So I sent her a text figuring that maybe they were at her place in the laundry and then I went to bed. Well she sent 2 text messages and called and then finally called the house line and woke me up. She was prett pissy..."I knew I should have just put everything out before I left" like I'm incapable of taking care of the kids or something. So I get up at 11:40 and start looking again...still nothing. She had said that if she found them when she got home that she would swing them by that night. I wake up at 2am and there is a text saying she still can't find them and to check the pool fence. I get up and sure enough there is S5s on the pool fence. Still Can't find D6s. So I'm laying in bed all stressed out because she was so pissy and then I thought...good for her. During our M she has never been able to express her anger. Really a big part of what got us here. So although it was hard to listen to...she got it out, didn't bottle it up for once. She really seems to be finding her strength and I'm happy for her!
So I found an old bathing suit for D6 and got them all ready and off to camp this morning. They were so excited. Did talk to W this morning for a minute and she was back to being fine.
Exactly! But you know, I used to get pissy like this all the time. It wasn't really at her, just stressed, etc but I took it out on her. And I even think that is kind of ok to do...as long as the other person is strong enough to realize what is happening, accept it and not take it personally. She wasn't able to do that but I plan to. Next time I will remember this and ask her if everything else is ok. At the moment I was taking it personally.
So i got home from work and my W had made up some burgers...but hadn't cooked them yet. She was going to have one but the antibiotics she's on for her tooth are bothering her stomach. She was running out to a movie so I gave her a hard time because I know that she'll be chowing down on popcorn and candy. Pretty funny. So..the interactions between us continue to be nice and friendly. Glad she seems to be ok around me. Hopefully we can keep it like this.
H texted me - she was in FL and just got back. They have these bonfires on the beach every year here on the 3rd of July...so we may go to that tomorrow night. I haven't been in years. So I'm psyched, should be fun. Want to try and get a ride in first. After tomorrow I'm off from work until next Tuesday.
Closing on the house a week from today - lots to do. Hope everone is good. I'm pretty tired...need to get some sleep tonight. I can't believe it but my W found D6's bathing suit in the hamper that I went through 3 times.
