Hey All! Well that FING SUCKED! The whole night was fine. We hung out, kids watched their movie...whatver. But at the end of the night D6 starts saying that she doesn't want to go to mommy's wants to stay with me. I remind her that she was complaining the other night about not getting to see mommy and that she would be with me the next two nights so i think she should go with her. Well that turned into, I don't want two houses and why can't you come to mommy's house and it's not fair because you don't get to see mommy. All the while my W is in the other oblivious to the fact that her D's heart being ripped out. She was crying - I was crying (although she didn't see it)...Fing sucked. I calmed her down, made her laugh a bit, carried her upstairs so she could brush her teeth before going over and carried her back down. She started to get upset again, W did see it this time but it wasn't nearly as bad and I gave her my hat to wear and bring to bed with her.
She was upset earlier today too saying a lot of the same stuff. I just want to get them into a routine in both houses so they feel a little more secure before dropping the friggin' D bomb on them. UGH!
I'm so sorry about your kids. I know that rips your heart out. There's a lot of that going on over here, too. DD3 is starting to get a little baffled about why Daddy is "at work" all the time. He's hard at work atop a---well, never mind....
Don't suppose you'd let me put H in your beer fridge for a spell? He might be more susceptible to my DB'ing if he chills a bit.
Swash I hear you. I know my daughter is hurt and confused by all of this bullshit going on. She throws little fits when it is time to go, when wife or I leaves. "No dont go.....stay" gets all clingy and that. It is hard and it sucks. I am learning little tricks though, they way I prefer to leave my child is with a smile on her face bragging about all of the fun she had with daddy.....
Just got back from the big firework show.......it totally rocked! Blew away any firework show I ever saw before. Made me feel better, after this afternoons fiasco....lost my ring while swimming.. see my thread for more details. My buddy who I went with, his wife invited her friend along. This friend of hers just found out that her hubby is having an affair. Was kinda sad to watch her call him like 10 times in the 5 hour period we were down there......Managed to get 2 minutes with her towards the end of the night and pointed her towards DR book and towards this website. She was aware of my some of my sitch.......told her that this has helped me alot........
Anyhow, i digress.......just be patient with your kids. Easy to say, sometimes hard to do....take care man
Speaking of fireworks, my H will definitely have to take the kids to a fireworks show. If he balks, he's going in that beer fridge. The OW needs to learn how to play stepmother to raving monsters--Lord love 'em.
Somebody did say "thing", but that person was probably ill-advised. Busted a couple of buttons on my corset.
Sorry, S2H. That does suck. You handled it really well. I know that probably doesn't make it whole lot better. Your kids have a good Dad and are very fortunate. I'm not a parent and I can't imagine how hard this is, but I would think that it would help make the kids feel more secure if you talked to them again now about what is happening... even if you leave divorce out of it for now.?? ((((swashy))))
Me: 37 M: 14 yrs Separated 10/06; Filed for D 12/07 Life is good.
Delia - not sure the beer fridge is big enough for him...and I really don't want him skunking the beer. But I'm sure we can figure something out.
NDDT - Thanks man. Glad to hear you had a good time at the show, helped someoene but sorry about the ring. That really sucks.
Thanks JKD....yup, loves to sleep with one of my hats....but it was also my favorite one..Patriots....better get it back
J - They obviously know that we've been S and that mommy and daddy need some space from each other. Now they are coming to terms with selling the house and getting 2 new places. My D hates that we are renting and not buying for some reason. Then I think we'll tell them about the D. I do talk to them a lot, ask if they are ok and ask if they have questions on anything that is happening. I've told them that no matter what they can and should come to me with questions or if they are upset. Which I think is why my D did open up to me last night. Need to make them understand that the communication line is open.
Well, need to grab some coffee and breakfast and then head out for a ride. yay me.
