Well the sale of the house begins today..Will take a few days for the process to begin to be in full swing though, the sale sign going up & all the other crap that goes with it...Again i'm not expecting to be out of here until after Christmas, but it could be a quick sale, I dont know.
I was talking to a friend about what W had said when she came down last week...The stuff about if things dont go to plan with OM etc....He seems to think that she's now starting to consider her actions. I would agree with that, although I don't think that will make any change for our M. Something has gone wrong for her somewhere, not sure what, but something has changed.
Time will tell I suppose but for now it remains the same sitch....Although I will say that out contact with each other has improved no end...It's not the contact I would have liked lol...But looking at it positive, any contact is good & gives me my chance to shine
Strange, I just posted on my thread, I need some serious help here, and don't want to use your post for my own means, if you or anyone could take a quick look at the last post I made, and offer some advice, I would really appreciate it, I wouldn't ask like this, but now my time is ticking down. Thanks Bro.
Well the sale of the house is off to a flying start...The sale sign was up Thurs & three quite positive viewers already. Which in the current UK house market, is good going...
My W did not show for any of these viewings & of course it would be in her intrest to do so. I'm not so sure why she would not want to be here. Maybe guilt, maybe it's the fact that i'm going full steam ahead with this sale. She has not called me to ask how things went either, not bad for someone that wants to sell ?
I can't help but think this all started by me not doing what W wanted, that is, filing for D agaist her...Maybe this is her ace card by saying she now wants to sell the house..To be very honest, i was, at first very upset that i was losing my home..However, having time to consider all the facts, I can't wait to get out.
Hey Bro, first of thanks for your congratulations on the career, and all your encouragement on my thread, which in now locked up, so I'll be starting a new one soon, I haven't been online for a little while, computer problems, but it is fixed now. So I'll put it in the sig, later.
I think that your W, not showing up is because of straight up guilt. You know how they are, they can't face what they've done. And when it is in their face, they have to get out, before they can really open their eyes and see.
I am glad that you are now in good spirits over the whole sale of the house, I don't know if I would be, but thank God, I never bought a house, but as you know the financial side of a D, no matter what, is a pain in the rump, even thought I just got my dream job I will still most likely lose my bank account, that I've had for 15yrs. And it will probably take me a few months to get out of all the debt that this sitch has placed me in.
But you know, and I know this is wrong, but, I do take a little solace in knowing that while I am getting out of it, and my dreams are coming true, my W will is going under, and watching everything she thought she had, fall apart. The wall is getting closer. And she is not swerving to miss it, so very soon "CRASH!"
Now I know that doesn't sound like a guy who loves his W, does it, but at this point there is nothing I can do, I still love her, but I know that she has to hit the wall, before anything between us can happen. Yours will too, it is just a matter of time, So stay on track, your doing great. Take care, Bro.
Out of the three couples that came to view the house over the weekend..Two have placed an offer to buy, so looks positive...
W sent me a text message today saying that she had the brochure's from the agents that are selling the house for us...They had e-mailed her a copy. She asked me if I would like a copy printing & she would bring it to me. She could have just e-mailed it to me, but who am I to turn down a chance to see my W lol..So she brought it to me. We talked for a while, about nothing really, but it was nice to see that she wants to talk & was not in much hurry to escape. I was upbeat as always & so was she to be honest..Always friendly, smiles & laughter...
I am starting to think that although my M could well & truly be over...I do think that a friendship is still there. In the four months since she left there has not been a single hostile moment. I don't know if I should pride myself on this or not? Part of me thinks, how on earth could I remain so friendly towards my W? I don't know to be honest, but I do know it feels like the natural thing to do.
I am starting to think that although my M could well & truly be over...I do think that a friendship is still there. In the four months since she left there has not been a single hostile moment. I don't know if I should pride myself on this or not?
Strange, bro, Yes, you should be very proud, As you know I can't say the same. Keep that friendship going, as it is the foundation for everything else, you know. Take care.
Strange, Bro. It was good to hear from you, things are good and bad, at the same time. Many questions still unanswered, but I am waiting for things to be clear.
Since you haven't been around for awhile, I hope all is well with you. Talk with you later, Take care.
I don't update my thread much anymore, but still, I am around from time to time..
Things here are just about the same, we're friendly & talk fine. Wife has not mentioned Divorce since I told her to go & file, this was about 3 months ago.
Since my last post in here I have moved home & doing ok. Wife & OM are now selling his home for whatever reason, my guess is because W can't settle there, she did say something to me about this a few months ago.
A few things that surprised with W, was when she came to take the last things that are hers from the house...She made a point of taking her Wedding dress, this did shock me a little, also a lot of sentimental things that either I got her or things that mean something to the both of us.
Lots more have happened but way too much to write here....
I do continue to do what I can in this sitch but I am at piece with how it seems to be right now.
