Uhm, yip....that frying pan works! I know it worked when I was hit with it almost 2 years ago But then again....thats just it! We were hit.....they were not. We have grown....They have not! So......the moral of the entire friggen story isssssssssssssss
Leave them alone. Work on you. Live "as if" for now. Set boundries you need. Meet goals you want. Do things to succeed in life.....instead of living in the world of constant complaining and misery. I know.....I can say this now, but once long ago, I would have said. "NO. You don't understand!! I LOVE HIM!!!!!! HOW CAN HE DO THIS T ME???? Well...he did. No matter how miserable you make yourself, it is NOT going to change anything except YOU! Oh yea....they get tired of our miserable selfs too So we work on US...when and if they are ready to come home.....we hope that we want them back.
Like I've said.....I would gladly take the risk if my xh were to want to give it a try. But, in the meantime..I'm moving forward. He would not need to perform a miracle, we would need to perform them together.
Jeanette
Change the Policy. Allow PM's Free all of us.
Also some new and improved emoticons would be nice!
Indeed! We will never be able to hit them hard enough. They will have to get there on their own. Was feeling the "HOW CAN SHE DO THIS!?!" anger this morning. You've got me turned around. Rest of the day is look bright! Thanks,
Me 32 WAW 30 D Bomb 7/9 Separated 7/15 Reiterated bomb 8/12 PA 8/21 http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...rue#Post1198643
Can Married People Fall Out of Love? The answer to that question seem obvious to me given this site's subject matter.
Originally Posted By: Jeanette1120
Growing up and Loving Again
The only effective response to a breakdown in the relationship between a husband and a wife is for one of the partners to try to bring about a change within himself or herself irrespective of what the other wants to do; this is the beginning of growth that, in itself, results in a successful and peaceful life with or without your spouse.
In my experience that sentence pretty well sums up whats going on for me.
Except for the "results in a successful and peaceful life" bit hasn't happened as of yet. I just consider it a work in progress.
Can Married People Fall Out of Love? The answer to that question seem obvious to me given this site's subject matter.
Originally Posted By: Jeanette1120
Growing up and Loving Again
The only effective response to a breakdown in the relationship between a husband and a wife is for one of the partners to try to bring about a change within himself or herself irrespective of what the other wants to do; this is the beginning of growth that, in itself, results in a successful and peaceful life with or without your spouse.
In my experience that sentence pretty well sums up whats going on for me.
Except for the "results in a successful and peaceful life" bit hasn't happened as of yet. I just consider it a work in progress.
Oh yea, thanks for sharing the article.
Good luck.
Hasn't happened yet for me either...but it sure is getting closer! I hope the work in progress is "you". great things take a long time to build!
Good luck to you!
Change the Policy. Allow PM's Free all of us.
Also some new and improved emoticons would be nice!
Working on me is difficult b/c I find myslef thinking/considering how my new actions/interests may effect W's view on me and M. So I am always second guessing my actions.
Me 32 WAW 30 D Bomb 7/9 Separated 7/15 Reiterated bomb 8/12 PA 8/21 http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...rue#Post1198643
But then again....thats just it! We were hit.....they were not. We have grown....They have not! So......the moral of the entire friggen story isssssssssssssss
great things take a long time to build!