Wishing you a peaceful and joyful Christmas. While you may not see your kids open their gifts on Christmas morning, you will be able to enjoy them all day. Of all the gifts I have ever received, nothing compares to having had my boys.
Merry Christmas. ISLH
Me: 49 - S22 & S26 H: 41 - No kids M: 10/00 Bomb New Year's Day 2006 H living w OW 01/07; have baby 12/07 D final 07/07 Thread #9 - Hope Lives On
You're a smart, perceptive, caring guy - this next year is going to hold some great things for you. I know this... because I know that is the only kind of year you will allow yourself to have!
Strength and Honor, friend!!!
Thread #10 22 year M, MLC, Piecing since 1/07 Goal: Live with confidence & enthusiasm!
Thanks all for the holiday greetings. It meant so much.
Journal:
Well, second Christmas without W and although this was 100% better than last year's, it still sucked. Not b/c of missing xW but b/c of no family, no traditions.
I did not get the kids until Christmas night. I expected for W to drop them off on her way home from her family, but she went straight home and I had to go get the kids. No early release - 6:00 pm on the nose per the legal schedule, and they were not ready when I got there.
Gift exchange. No Christmas card from W, unlike my birthday, and her gifts 'from the kids' were weak. Sad all around. My gifts to her were not personal either and no card from me - unlike last Christmas when I got a card AND a personal gift - only to have it all backfire.
The child exchange went quickly. W was cold and distant.
I was happy to see my kids and they me. I get them through New Year.
Brother: my brother came Sunday before Christmas and it turned out to be uneventful. I dislike my brother but that was never an issue this visit. My mom enjoyed having the family together. I cooked a big dinner Christmas Eve but it turned out second rate - my heart was not into it.
My mom has been here 4.5 years now and this is only the second time my brother and his family have visited here together. I am all alone with mom, taking care of her without help ....
My brother's daughter, my only niece also came. She is now 21 and a piece of work. Self centered college junior know-it-all. If she does talk she turns the conversation into all about her. I gave her a big gift - not even a thank you. She talks down to her parents and seemed like she was doing us a favor even showing up. When she marries I will buy her DB and DR - she will need them. Her partner will not walk - he will run.
Brother left Thursday. We all had a big meal Wed at a good Italian place. My kids got to see them and that was good since I got the kids too late for us to get together on Christmas day.
Presents: the kids liked their stuff from me. The big hit was a slot car set. I had one as a kid and loved it but I was shocked it went over so well with my son - this being the age of video games.
After Christmas: W emailed: "Good news. The offer on the house I want was accepted. I am thrilled..."
Yes. Right. So I am to be thrilled too.
My inner "little boy" returned and said "fu*k you" (not to worry, I said that to myself only). That email really hurt. Part of me was still hoping ....
Why would anyone not realize that saying "good news ... thrilled" would not hurt me? But from what I read on this BB I got off easy.
The only good is that she will be out of the house by Feb and I get to move out of this apartment.
Tonight W called to speak to the kids. Friday is movie night and she knows it. She calls during the movie and kept my kids on the phone way too long. Then she suddenly hangs up on D6. D6 hands me the phone and said mom will call back, wanted to talk to me - but mom had a call from her real estate agent and had to hang up!
W calls back and I answer abruptly. She asked what was wrong. I reminded her we were watching a movie. She was put out - said never mind, she will call back tomorrow - she promised D6 she would call at 5:30 anyway.
I guess I am to drop everything and make sure I am waiting by the phone at 5:30 sharp. After all, SHE is in *control* now.
Two years. Two years of this BS. I am so fed up with it all.
