question about text messaging

[northsin]

I used to snoop too. He made it so easy, leaving junk from her all over the place. I even have pictures of all her love notes and gifts (including the sex toys) copies of all their e-mails (I bugged the computer so everything he does, email, IM messages, facebook messages are sent to me) I have copies of hotel bills etc. I felt that I no longer wanted to be a mushroom, you know, kept in the dark and fed BS. The problem with snooping is that it made me so angry...all the time. I would fret and stew and think about it while driving to and from work and I could barely be civil to him sometimes. This is not a good thing if you want to save your marriage.

I no longer snoop so much. It was stressing me out so much, I thought I'd end up having a heart attack, and the pair of them are not worth that! H will do what he will do and we now get along so much better, on a day to day basis anyway. I am working more on GAL and I am much happier. I have noticed him looking at me sometimes as if wondering what is going on, and he is much more affectionate lately. As for his text messages, you probably can't get hold of them. At least he goes into another room when he texts her. My H exchanges texts with his OW right in front of me. They're "just friends" after all. (yeah right)

Me 48
H 37
M 8.5Y
T 10Y
No sex - the last 3 years H- "I'm impotent"
"She's my soulmate, but we're just friends."

[phbear316]

Northsin

Thanks for the post. I know snooping is not good, and when i found out about affair, it consumed me 100%. now months later i do it about 10%. I don't snoop so much as keep my guard up looking for things. Last time the bill from the hotel was sticking out of the top of the bag. I was like hiding easter eggs for kids right in on the living room floor. H does not hide things now.

I just wanted the information, just for me. I know it sounds crazy, but it was something i had to have to show h i am not as stupid as you think i am. It was consuming me and almost gave me a heart attack too. You hit the nail right on the head, they are going to do what they want when they want.

I went thru the same stage of not being civil to him, i still do sometimes, like when h calls me in the afternoon and says i am going out, i say ok do what you need to do, then i come home to find a note saying don't wait up for me i wont be home, please understand. As you Fu*&k someone else, no i don't understand. was a text i sent to him.

I to am trying to work on GAL, its going slowly.

Well thanks for your help and advice, i really appreciate it.

phbear