Hi everyone, just noticed thread locked so here I am, as I say moving forward with son, enjoying our lives eventually and watching as ex just seems to be going deeper and deeper down the debt hole. oh dear I'm so glad I'm not involved in that one I have never and will never get into debt.
Mandy, good to hear from you! I am glad that you are moving along, it does take time. From what you are saying about the EX, I really believe that in the very near future he won't have a pot to pee in, nor a window to throw it out of.
The GET A LIFE(GAL) approach can be used beyond the Big D. A list was posted in this forum. You can brainstorm yours.
It takes time to heal. Keep visiting Michele's site. Also, use words of affirmation. Tell yourself, "It's going to be a good day! When you pass by a mirror, smile at yourself, and say, "I love myself." If you're in a funk, do somthing special, and include your son. Go get icecream, see a movie, whatever comes to mind. Perhaps a special dinner with your girlfriends would help too. For me, spirituality helped enormously. The list goes on....
Love and thanks to you all for your replies, braveheart I love how you say it, you could be me with those quotes, just hope it comes true, I can well and truly see he is gonna be the loser, and now she's turned forty watch her go! Imp thanks for your words of wisdom and thanks again Tia.
just a quick update for you all, still heard nothing from ex and can't say I want to, I still think he is going to regret his actions and what he as done to us both, but hey I have a date, it is with a guy who I was actually engaged to some 20 years ago, I have bumped into him a few times whilst I have been out over the last three years and he finally plucked up the courage to ask me out, I am not sure as you all are aware I have been to the cleaners and back with the ex, I have and still am extremely hurt by what he as done, so I have told this guy we can go for a drink and a laugh and see where it goes from there but to be careful with me as I am still fragile, also he understands that my main concern is my son and I don't want upsetting him as he as only just found happiness again, but we'll see how it goes
jmw, thanks for your reply, I split with this guy all those years ago as he was very immature at the time although he thought the world of me, it was me that broke it off he seems to have really quietened down and matured, I'm not saying it will go anywhere as I wouldn't want to hurt him again and I definately don't want hurting again, we'll see how it goes I aren't even sure I'm ready to start dating, but a drink and a laugh would be good especially with someone that doesn't know what I have been through the last three years, remind me again has your h stopped contact with son and if so how did he eventually get in contact after how long. thanks
